Did you have your life figured out by age 21?

[thatshydork]

I’m kind of going through a quarter life crisis at the moment because I’ve got nothing about my future figured out except for the fact that I want to go to university after I finish getting my Associates Degree from my local community college. The way I make myself feel better is I look at my friends and family who struggled with finding the right ‘fit’ for them when it comes to jobs and if they want to go to college. I guess it makes me feel less alone.

Have you ever felt this way too?

[SallyTho87]

Nope! I'm 31 and I am still learning, still growing, advancing my knowledge, and continuing my education to help me level up going into the future.
You are very young, you have plenty of time to be stressed later in life. University is a great plan to work toward. Just because other people in your life have struggled, or were unsure what they wanted to do long term, sometimes it takes people longer to realize exactly what we are good at, what we WANT to do, and what we need to complete in order to reach that aspiration.

College to Uni, you know what you want. You have an idea of where you are going, a goal you're trying to accomplish and improve yourself with each step. Please don't worry about everyone else, or what anyone else says. This is YOUR life, and you enjoy every step of it as you continue your journey.

[Account]

I have nothing figured out, even now.
I just wing it every day.
I don't even know how I managed so far without a concrete plan, but that is how I am and it is what it is.
It has been working for me for some goddamned reason.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

In life I always say you should never give up, you should never give in & most of all you should keep moving forward no matter what. As for life I also say if you never try you will never know & as for me I rather try & fail rather than not try at all.

As for figuring things out it could take people a lifetime to do that but on the other hand some people can figure it out in the shower.

As for the future the one things about it is that it’s unwritten & you can do anything you want or any you put your mind to.

In the meantime LIVE YOUR LIFE.

[Still-alive]

Not at all. in fact i really didn't figure it out until a few years ago really. it was a looong time for me.

not saying it'll take you this long either, i hope you well on your journey but mine was just super drawn out and fraught with danger even. lets just say im lucky im still here.

But even now that i have figured things out for the most part, im still humble enough to allow my mind to be changed by things upon learning new things in life.

You'll figure it out im sure. i believe in you

[ArrowheadSW]

I more-less did have it figured out by then. With some adjustments later on. I think I "assumed" that I would get married and raise kids, but as time went on I determined that wouldn't be for me. So, I never did get married.

[NathanDavis]

lmfao... no way

I actually got a first serious job and moved out of the house at age 22, that's when I started to get serious

and, while stable and definitely on good steady tracks... one never really, completely figures out life

[molonski2]

I've felt that way many times , did I have it worked out at 21 ? none no way , no idea.

I did all the wrong jobs , make bad choices , with time over , I would be a fund manager , probably with a property focus..

And after all my mistakes , I still did okey , but it should have been better for sure.

[RebelinSteel]

Nope not at all, I had an idea on the direction I was taking. At 21 I was at university and about to face the big wide world. Felt very much like that.

At 30 I am still working out directions to take, how I will get to my next change, I am debating doing more university courses, or similar. I tend to make things up as I go along in life.

[Unit1]

Mostly yes.

Money is everything and after that there isn't much more to figure out.

In fact I held that belief since i was like 6 years old and in first grade elementary school, where food and drinks cost money and i almost never had money to buy these.

[Unit1]

Ah, as in life, well, there were many uncertainties but i was always on the rush to escape from my toxic family with whatever next thing was my ticket out of their madness.
Nevertheless money is king. Having money equals having everything.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Yes from the age of 9. In fact, we had a careers teacher come and see us when I was about 11, and she told me there was little she could advise me as I was so focused on what I wanted!

[AviatorTom]

By 21, I pretty much had everything figured out, my life plan. A few tweaks along the way, but I basically did, and accomplished, what I set out to do.

[DishLady]

Yeah, I did... and I still had to reinvent myself twice times since then because life is hard and * happens. You'll be ok.

[LazerBean]

Yes, but being a late bloomer has become the norm now. Which I think is kinda sad, but others don't seem to mind too much.

[DJB72]

I'm 52 and I haven't yet.

Don't stress about it. Have an idea where you're aiming for but be open to route changes along the way.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

Well, for me that's also a nope. My friends didn't even have their life figured out at 21.

[handsomelad70]

I'd figured who I was and wasn't by 14, but the rest of life (except most people trying to lay BS on me and expecting me to believe it), not within a nautical mile.

[lmkimcurious]

I went to massage school at 19-20 and decided that’s what I was going to do until I figure out what else I want to do. I’m 31 and still deciding!

[genericname85]

lol no. i was far away from it at that point. completely lost in life. i'm only now starting to get it together xD

[Redstang88]

Definitely not, I only decided what I wanted to do at 21/22. Still don’t have it all figured out

[rahul1990]

Yes, you are feeling what most people at that age feel. I certainly felt the same way. Everything just seems uncertain and unclear. But trust yourself you like many other will make it. It is just about doing small things everyday

[Bklynbadboy12]

Unfortunately I didn't I had my degree but I was still wonder what it was that I really wanted to do. And then it hit me. If you want to know my hit me up I'll share my story and how I got it together

[DrPepper12]

Fuck no. Had to reassess at 25 and go back to night school.

[jamesgoldman]

Yeah then COVID happened and flipped everything on its head

[Rangers]

Pffffffttt, is this a joke? Of course not! I'm still trying to get things together at age 24

[captain_voidwalker]

Lady I'm 40 and whilst I have a ton more experience to handle life's little misadventures I still haven't figured my life out.

[jahaims]

What does it mean to figure out lice? That is subjective

[whereismyjohnny]

I knew what I wanted out of life since I was 14, and I've been pursuing it since then.

[onedarkcloud]

LMFAO and still trying to figure that question out.

[mickeysmonkey]

I will soon be 73, if you figure out life, let me know

[laly520]

yes

fortunately

[bowenw]

No. Still figuring it out.

[bananathunder]

helllllllllllllllll no lol

[fordtruck]

I’m in the oilfield I have it figured out

[Gabriel-Chicanito]

Pretty much, so.

[sheikalana]

I didn't.

[impalabill77]

No I didn't.

[eagle1951]

no what