What to do when everything becomes overwhelming?

[Midgetmcwidget]

working life isn’t going well and stressful, private life isn’t going well and also stressful, what to do when I've been gossiped about and disrespected and it’s taking it’s toll on me?

[zeitgeist057]

I'm sorry to hear everything is going this way for you right now. It may be a good time to stop and reassess everything, if you are able to do so financially. Whatever that looks like for you.

Remember that pretty much nothing in life is so important you can't drop it completely if it's toxic. That goes for work, friends, family, partners, living situations, even entire communities. It may be less stressful to try to work with what you have and patch it up, especially if the way you interact with others was part of how you got to where you are in the first place. Not victim blaming, as there are definitely assholes out there who treat others poorly, but we can't change them, all we can do is figure out what we CAN change, and do that. Taking responsibility for our own actions is the single thing we can exercise a small amount of control of to influence this chaotic world.

@Iron_Man suggested "time in nature" which is a great idea if you can afford to step away for a few days. I would stress that you should use this time not just to escape, but to actively reflect and seek to develop strategies and solutions to the problems you are facing.

You can also try to enlist the aid of others. Maybe even some of the people you are having issues with. People can be amazing as well as assholes, and sometimes finding an ally or two that you can depend on makes all the difference. Build your network/community.

Again, you could just dump the professional and private life you have and try to start from scratch, but be a bit wary. I think of the person who hates where they live, then moves somewhere new, but finds the same issues in the new place. Wherever you go, there you are, so make sure the problems aren't something that have to do with something you can change.

[Iron_Man]

Thanks my friend

[zeitgeist057]

@Iron_Man of course my friend, credit where credit is due, nature is a great place for us to de-stress.

[Iron_Man]

Right exactly

[Havthrills]

Lately, my overwhelming is at home. Work is good. I don't let it get overwhelming even when I was doing the job of 5 people. And that's happened often.

[pizzalovershouse]

Dumb the trash an hang with good friends

[Iron_Man]

Take a road trip get back with nature

[eagle1951]

punt

[Bricealan]

Great, well thought out non-answer, to someone asking for an honest thought as to what to do.