I Told My Female Coworker To Calm Down. Thoughts?

[Anonymous]

My female coworker was going out her mind over a mishap at work that I, nor any other coworker didn't mean to happen. She was ranting and raving at me and several other people to the point that I had to say to her firmly "You need to calm down, now." She responds, "Don't tell me to calm down!" I respond to her, "I'm telling you to calm down." I don't mean calm down as in your feelings don't matter. I mean calm down as in you lost your damn mind up in here and everybody including me got real bad headache from you. Listen, I don't doubt that I have a lot to learn about women in the workplace. But I'm fairly new to the job and I'm doing the best I can to do the job right and the last thing I need is a crazy lady or crazy man yelling and screaming when I make honest mistakes on something, which makes my job more difficult than it needs to be. If she's gonna train me, do that. But don't make my job more difficult than what it needs to be and turn around and tell me "that's the way the job is," because it turns me off. And I don't need her to keep throwing her seniority in my face and tell me "you're new here." My supervisor knows all that stuff. Just train me to do the job and stop acting like a goon. She also doesn't like being told what to do all because she's been on the job for almost two decades and things she a senior above everyone else. There are people that have been on the job 35 and 40 years and have not had problems with authority like you do, nor have they thrown their seniority in other people's face. My supervisor yet has less years on her and reminded me in a text message that I'm to answer to her and not the two-decade coworker. Even my supervisor is fed up with her. So yeah, I told my female coworker "Calm [the freak] down," and I'd tell him again. And for the record, my female coworker got in trouble today for arriving to work 3 hours late without notifying the boss. If anything, she acts like a rebellious teenage daughter. Thoughts?

[HorggleThorp]

I don’t see a problem with it, but to make it work, say it in a calming voice. Believe it or not, because of human empathy, we pick up on others’ emotions. So if you said it in a kind, calming voice, she’s got a greater chance of calming down.

[Summeroflove]

Telling someone to calm down isn't going to work. But you don't have to be around someone who acts like that