How do I stop having a fear of becoming a failure?

[Anonymous]

I’m not doing good academically and financially, I’m only 18 and I have to retake my classes in order to get into uni. I can’t stop comparing myself to people my age, I want to become an engineer but I don’t think I’m good enough at certain subjects. I feel like I’m wasting my time away…

[exitseven]

You are trying to do something hard. It is no lie that a lot of people cannot finish. There is no guarantee that you will graduate. However, the great Wayne Gretsky said that you miss 100% of the shots you don't take.

[Asker]

Thank you this was sweet🥺 it made me tear up a little

[exitseven]

okay= I went on a similar journey. I wanted to change careers when I was in my 30s. I went to school at night to get a degree in Computer Science. I was nearly 40 by the time I finished. And I still had to find somebody who would hire someone my age for an entry level position.
The government keeps statistics on how many people that train for a second career later in life actually succeed. It was only 1 in 10. I was that 1 in 10.

[inhua]

if you're comparing yourself through the male lens then yes you are becoming a failure but not so much through the female lens

[misogynistic_pig]

In my university it is easy to enter engineering, the easiest is agricultural engineering.

[Danny_dan92]

By working hard