I'm so afraid of failure, how can I overcome this feeling? ?

[Caillouuu]

I always want to be the best, but when I fail I get angry and it negatively affects my life.

[OneViewpoint]

Why fear failure?

It's one of the best learning tools in existence.

If you have never failed, you have been aiming too low. Playing it safe.

You avoid risk too don't you?

Why?

Uncertainty?

You want guarantees.

Life isn't like that. If you want to achieve anything you must be willing to risk failure.

In the midst of chaos there is also opportunity. (Sun Tzu - The Art Of War)

Learn to embrace the chaos and navigate risk. It's just a choice you have to make. It can set you apart and change your life.

[McSteamy]

See. God gave us life to feel every experience. Not to blast our mind on failures. Even great scientists and sportsmen were experienced the bullying and mocking in their succesful journey. Had they stuck in thinking loop.. they wouldn't have become great personalities. It's okay to fail. Remember it's not actually a failure.. it's a remainder that you could do better. There's no such failure thing. Even when we succeed we don't just stop there. Try and try until you win it. Just be happy with what you have. Remember there's lot of humans living horrible life. You can't even imagine. Feel good for what you have. Try until you succeed else move on and try another. Life is not all about one thing.

[bobalife]

It’s okay to wanna do your best and be your best. But it’s also okay to make mistakes and do what you can. It’s part of a perfectionist characteristic lol. We just have to lower our unrealistic expectation on ourselves and accept what we can do vs. what we can’t do, which is okay. Keep going, but keep being gentle with yourself on your efforts and where you are :)

[jazzy34]

Failure is when you give up, not when you don’t succeed. Any time you don’t succeed, consider it a life lesson. Yes, in the moment of not being successful is embarrassing, shameful, etc, but don’t wallow in it. Take a moment to pull yourself and try again. Keep going. 😊

[Caillouuu]

Thank youuu 🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🥹🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷

[jazzy34]

You’re welcome. 😊

[exitseven]

Okay- if you never fail it means that you are really not expanding your horizons. Doing something that really challenges you has it's risks. If you fail and keep trying until you succeed you are a winner. If you give up after the first failure you are not a winner.

[Caillouuu]

I will not give up and I will be the winner my fear is not failure but not being able to win.

[exitseven]

@Caillouuu Look- you may not succeed at everything, in fact you will not succeed at everything. Sometimes you have to be content with the knowledge that you tried your best.
Sometimes things are out of your control.

[BarryLiverstone]

By understanding that anger IS motivation. Only a deeply depressed person who gives up will fail and not feel angry. You are a fighter and can use the feeling you get from failure to work harder and improve. So it’s not a fear at all, it’s just an opportunity

[Caillouuu]

I am a warrior and I will succeed

[Berethor]

That's reminding me Jiren, "it's not possible. I cannot lose, I won't accept defeat." :)

https://www.youtube.com/embed/6pxkKf_yK28

[Caillouuu]

I turn into Jiren when I get fired up 😭

[TonyMetal___86]

There is something called "contentment" it's a lost treasure, whenever you learn ti master it, you will feel happy and comfortable in any situation you're in!

[Caillouuu]

It was a nice article, thank you 🤝

[TonyMetal___86]

That's the truth, i was like you but when i learned it, i felt like a big burden went off my chest

[Staximus]

Just keep failing until you stop worrying about it. You're never going to learn anything if you don't face failure and move past it

[Staximus]

Or accomplish anything

[Caillouuu]

You are right...

[Staximus]

Think of famous artists and masterpieces that they painted. In some of those paintings, there's like 10 masterpieces under those masterpieces that they painted over because they "weren't good enough". They were their own worst critic. Now somebody else might have looked at those paintings before they were painted over and thought that they were a better version than the so-called masterpiece. What's good enough or not, acceptable or not is in the eye of the beholder. It only really matters if somebody's going to live or die and you are saving their ass. If you accomplished your goal or fix what you need to, or create something that is open to interpretation, then it is good enough. There's no such thing as perfect but there is such thing as good enough. That applies to many situations in life, and many of the things that we do or want to accomplish. It also applies to people.

[Caillouuu]

The article enlightened me thank you. Every word is very meaningful, thank you I must not give up...

[Staximus]

You're welcome, don't give up

[Staximus]

https://youtu.be/0AzgFHtGM2Y?feature=shared

[slatyb]

Seek professional counseling. I was the same at your age and it had a large negative impact on my life.

[RavVid]

Mark yourself out of 100 instead of pass or fail.

[TrimmedTip]

Learn from others peoples mistakes. Try to be less failure. Talk to people, pull out suggestions while talking. Make every conversation a learning, small or big. Make every situation the best!

[aceleon]

actual question, why do you want that so much?

what is the actual reason you are so obsessed with it or even care about it to begin with.

[Danny_dan92]

It’s normal to feel disappointment when you fail at something. That just means you’re a perfectionist.


If anything it is a good thing because it means you’ll likely learn from your mistakes

[dwreborn]

Try turning that failure into a tool to learn to defeat it

[doruk2000]

I think the most important thing on the road to success is to keep your spirits high. Not everyone can succeed in everything. But if you put in all your effort, at least you can say ‘I tried my best, but it didn’t work out.’

[whiskeyontherocks]

I always think of it as failing forward can I improve my self even if I fail

[Caillouuu]

You’re right, what matters is getting back up after falling, but my motivation gets crushed so easily.

[ChicoFromThe305]

By remembering that failure is a part of success