How to not feel like a failure?

[Anonymous]

I’m 24. I live in Eastern Europe. I make around 17k Eur a year after taxes (pretty much average country’s income). I have a boyfriend, a place to live (my mom’s, but she lives separately), 3 pets. People say that I must be really grateful for having so much.
but I can’t help to think that Im a failure. I imagined my life so much differently. I don’t have friends, I don’t have my own place, I don’t have a relationship with my family, I don’t have any hobbies. I just feel so empty. I’ve tried to find a hobby, but I get bored very easily. I have a job that pays quite well for my age but I hate that place. Everything costs so much mom ey. And I’m trying to save up for a home. I need about 40k for a deposit, but at my salary and prices increasing THAT much, I’ll probably need to be on a budget for at least 5 more years.
I know I should be grateful for what I have, but how to change that mindset…?

[BasedBaeBecca]

You're not a failure. You are working hard and saving up for your own place, you have a well-paying job at a young age, you have a boyfriend and a good relationship with your mom, and you have pets who love you. You have so much to be thankful for. It's normal to compare yourself to others and wish for different things in your life, but it's important to remember that you're doing the best you can with the resources and circumstances you have. Everyone has their own path and timeline, and you can get to where you want to be in your own time.

[Marmara]

It's like you're talking about me.
Now I'm trying to change my mindset by looking at people who don't have the things I have and trying to be grateful. Another thing, believing in fate makes me feel satisfied and I will get the things I want at the right time when God decides. We just need to be patient because we still young and good things are yet to come.

[WhiteBorr]

This is the trait of people that have AMBITION.
Don't ignore the feeling if an average life feels insufficient, keep striving for a better paid job, don't settle for mediocre. You feel like a failure because you expect more from yourself. Be exceptional, you're only here once.

[exitseven]

No matter how much money you have it will never be enough. I never expected to have the income i have today but I feel like I am one calamity away from living under an overpass. I am trying to enjoy every day and find little things that remind me of how lucky I am.

[TallAnon]

To me it sounds like you're not a failure, you're just not happy. Have you been going outside? Have you been working out? Are you healthy? Maybe you just need to find that one thing that makes it all ok.

[Asker]

I’m unhappy because I feel like I’m a failure. It’s mostly because I have few great success stories around me from people who are around my age. I know I should not compare myself with anyone but I can’t help it. My biggest concern is low income (even tho I know how many people would be grateful for it) that stops me from doing something or getting things. That salary looks alright for living but not for buying a home or a car. And the job market is ridiculous now. No chance on getting promotion on my field and no chance on getting another job at similar salary.
As for the working out - I’m trying. Started going to gym about 5months ago but I don’t like it (still going tho). I am healthy.

[TallAnon]

You might just need to take a critical look at your career