My mom isn’t allowing me to pursue my dream because it’s expensive and I owe her money still from when I was laid off. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

Okay bare with me, I’m still waking up. Lol.
So I recently got a new job making 150K…working in high finance. That’s what I was also making before I lost my job. Between that time period, things got crazy and I needed help with bills. I’m currently paying her $500 a month until it’s paid off. The problem is, at the same time, I want to get back into riding horses competitively next year and my mom is highly advising against it. My horse died a week before Christmas and before that we were really competing together. So now I’m left with no horse and it’s something I’m really good at so I don’t want to give it up. The shows are expensive but I can afford it with my salary. I’m not looking to buy a new one for a while - just lease. I just don’t know how to make my mom happy since I still owe her money while I’m looking to also ride/show again.

[molonski2]

You can do it on 150 k , just be sensible , you must be reasonably sensible anyhow to hold down that position , you should be able to lease a horse and pursue your dream , it is an expensive sport , but so are some other sports.

[Asker]

Thank you. I’m also expecting a settlement from a lawsuit so that should help supplement the income. Also a bonus year end. I think she’s been a little rash about this since it wasn’t my fault I lost my job and horse in the first place. She just doesn’t want it to fall on her again.

[molonski2]

Just be sure that while you are making good money at a young age INVEST / INVEST / INVEST , you want that time in the market.

[Asker]

Definitely. I plan to save/invest like 25-30% of my monthly income for that.

[molonski2]

Yep , just buy a quality EFT and reinvest

[boggboss]

If its not somthing u can afford and pay of your debt bit really sure what to say

[Asker]

That’s not the issue. I worked out my budget and I can do both.

[boggboss]

So if u can do both whags the issue

[Asker]

My mother. Lol

[boggboss]

Is she gonna kick u out if u do it?

[Asker]

I live alone. So no, but she might be really annoyed with me.

[boggboss]

Lol if u don't even love with her I don't see how she is stopping you lol its your choice are u still a child

[Asker]

That’s what I don’t understand. She think she can tell me what to do all the time.

[boggboss]

Because u let her feel like she can

[Asker]

Good point. Yeah it’s controlling and not allowing me to move forward. Other than what happened my judgment of things is usually clear.