Why would a potential employer ghost me?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

So… That company I really wanted to work with (and have turned down and procrastinated other job offers in favor of it) had two successful interviews there and the guy, who was a shareholder of the company and my interviewer flirted with me on a first interview, I kept it professional the next time I met him cause I was just interested in getting the job, not flirting.

He said our 2nd interview was also very good and that I don’t need to change anything and he thinks we will be colleagues in future and then I have been waiting an answer from him for 10 days, almost certain I would get the job, he messaged me he would put a final round pretty soon, but then I messaged him twice to make sure the date of the final interview and he hasn’t been answering.

He could tell no, so I would pursue other job offers, he told me to wait.

I waited.

Then had to turn down some other offers while waiting him.

And in the end he is not responding me anymore.

Is that normal? Couldn’t he just say that my candidate wasn’t approved instead of making me wait endlessly and making me lose my time and other opportunities?

Updates

11 mo

I didn’t contact him too many times. Contacted him once last week and once this week.

Just because I was too rushed and called by other 4 jobs literally everyday, they were ready to provide with work visa and were rushing me to give my final answer. If it was my choice I could wait as long as it’d take him.

[dynamicyandere]

Perhaps they have a lot of applicants?


I'm a contractor, but also the manager of the marketing department. I made a hiring post and within 24 hours, I received about 150 applications. I temporarily took down the hiring post after a couple days so I could go through the applications and not be buried in them.


But let’s say, the firm you applied for had that job opening available for weeks and they had hundreds or maybe even thousands of applicants.


It would be a lot of work to follow up with all of them.


I suppose it’s quite possible that they’re buried in work.



But even if it takes work, it would be courteous of them to respond to you in a reasonable time, since you’ve already been through several steps of their interview process—and because of your VISA, they should be considerate of that.

[Adam1978]

You don't turn down other offers until you got a written contract. The more employers you got intressed in you the better bargain power you got. You could for example get them to process you faster if they know they will lose you otherwise. Sure you can't string along a job position for long because they need to fill it.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Those other jobs have been waiting me for like 3 weeks or a month and I was trying my best to procrastinate but I guess 3 weeks is a lot.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

For them to wait. So I am lost now.

[Adam1978]

In those cases you should have picked the one that wasn't delaying. They will be better employers after all. If they snooze they lose. Instead of turning them down.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I know… But this was the best offer. The most prestigious and also in my city… I have lived in this city since 2019

[chicken_nugget24]

It happened to me a bunch of times and unfortunately is very normal. I think it's because there are so many people applying for jobs now, they just forget 😕

[SnowedIn]

This is, unfortunately, very normal.

Potential employers do ghost. Even after jobs have been offered but not signed on.

They ghost to avoid awkward questions and drama and your heartache.

They ghost because they don't care and they don't have to.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Yeah, but I think it’s really unkind to do that as he knew my visa expires pretty soon and all I did is asked him, tell me should I wait for you or pursue other offers? He didn’t answer on that.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

It’s easy to say, hey, sorry we found someone else.

[SnowedIn]

I agree with you that it is unkind and perhaps even unfair but it happens.

Potential employers owe us nothing: neither fairness nor kindness nor even thoughtfulness about things like visas.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I now lost very precious 3 weeks that I could use for getting another job, I also lost other job offers because they couldn’t wait for me forever.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

And might have to go back to my country because he just couldn’t say No.

[SnowedIn]

Yep. It really sucks. I'm sorry that happened.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Maybe they decided to go in another direction but it's cool it happens. Now get back out there put in for ae other job and be great! But learn from this don't turn down a guaranteed job for something that might be. You feel me? 😉

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Yep I do. You are right.

[Sparkie460]

I know that was the job that you wanted but you should accept one of the others. They are ready to hire you now.

Sometimes employers have a lot of applicants that they are interviewing.

[slatyb]

Never ever ever ever ever reject other opportunities until you have a written offer.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I have a written offer in one of those jobs, they are rushing me real hard.

[slatyb]

Ask for more.

[AngryCarl2]

Probably went out of business. Welcome to Joe Biden's America.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I am not in America, I am in China.

[msc545]

He may feel like your anxiety is a little bit over the In other words, you may have contacted him one too many times.

[msc545]

Very odd. Something is going on that you are not aware of and may never know... but it probably is unrelated to you personally. He may be in some trouble is my thought.

[boggboss]

Wait do u have a date for the final interview

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

He didn’t give a date, saying it is still pending…

Then I am in a rush, cause my work visa expires very soon and asked him if we could settle earlier, cause I have to manage things urgently before my visa expires.

He hasn’t answered anymore…

[spartan55]

They hired someone else.

[NYCQuestions1976]

They're not interested in hiring you.

[eagle1951]

because your not getting the job