How to deal with my lateness?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I am usually often late. I work on that now.

Today I had to travel to another city for lectures, I’ll be picked up by my employer and he’ll drive me to the campus.

The thing is Shanghai has horrible traffic jams and even though it takes 30 minutes usually to go to the railway, it took me 1 hour and 20 minutes this morning, I was late at train and had to purchase a new ticket.

As a result the employer will have to wait for me for one hour. I must have been there now.

I feel like dying of shame. I feel so bad.

[Anonymous]

I don't know how you do it. i am just riddled with anxiety if i'm not at my destinations early. it eases my anxiety when i don't have to rush, i just could never be late.

although, in your situation, you cannot control traffic jams. those happen all the time and sometimes those are just completely out of your control, like if someone had an accident holding up traffic. just explain your situation and work on it more is all you can really do. but don't blame yourself on things outside of your control. you'll be okay and all will be forgiven. things happen, it's just life. i'm sure they'll understand!

[BoopBoopBeep]

Was there a train wreck or something or is that normal traffic? If that's normal, you have to take that into account when backwards planning.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Seems normal but I don’t usually take that route and didn’t know it would be that bad

[BoopBoopBeep]

Oh, I would say definitely don't try a new/unfamiliar route when you're trying to get somewhere on time. A lot of my races are in new areas, I plan my route to arrive there an hour early. That way whatever happens I'm generally good. The latest I've ever been was 5 minutes before start time, which put me in a hectic frenzy to get my check-in packet, get my armor on and get stretched out after a long drive. Sucked royally..

[stratford]

I thought you were talking about being late on your period 😂

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

No, my periods are perfect.

[stratford]

Phew.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Hahah

[msc545]

Leave 1.5 hours earlier than you think you need to next time.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Very good advice

[msc545]

It works! I used to be late a lot - no more after doing that all the time.

[KrakenAttackin]

You are late because there are no consequences. If your employer lit your ass everyone you are late, you would damn sure be on time.

You get slack because you are a pretty girl.

[spartan55]

Yeah, I'm sure. Until next time.

[Iron_Man]

You live in Shanghai China?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Yes.

[Iron_Man]

Interesting

[tfan1]

Get up earlier

[Grond21]

I have been there too. It feels horrible

[Andres77]

Learn the lesson and move forward.

[eagle1951]

practise leaving early

[Alex8736]

Plan accordingly