Why is having a relationship at work a bad idea?

[blunty]

What are the disadvantages of dating at work? I ask this cause I don't see anything wrong in having a relationship at work...

[passenger]

They always seem like a great idea until you're neck-deep in complications. Let me break it down for you:

Mixing Work and Play: It's super hard to keep things professional when your heart's doing somersaults every time they walk by. You're trying to focus on a report, but all you can think about is the funny text they sent you last night.

Breakup Blues: If things go south, oh boy, you're in for some awkward elevator rides. Imagine having to collaborate on a project with an ex. It's like being forced to hang out with someone who's got your old favorite shirt – and they won't give it back.

Office Gossip: People in the office love a juicy story, and your romance is probably the headline. Suddenly, you're the star of the office soap opera, and trust me, not everyone's rooting for a happy ending.

The Power Play: Say one of you is the other's boss. Every promotion, raise, or even a compliment could be seen through the 'favoritism' lens.

Distraction Central: It's hard enough to concentrate at work without your significant other around. With them there, good luck meeting deadlines when you're busy planning your next date or replaying that small argument you had in the morning.

Exit Strategy? Good Luck!: And if it all goes belly-up, you might not just be saying goodbye to them, but to your job too. It's like having to move out of your favorite neighborhood because of a bad breakup.

But also, I've heard of some cases where it worked out beautifully – like finding a diamond in a rough patch. I guess it’s all about how you handle it...

[Dinklex3]

Just the drama and potential pettiness if you’re childish after the breakup.
Mine was great (kept it friends with benefits) minus people finding out and putting us on complete opposite shifts 🥴. If we were different ranks they would’ve made a huge deal out of it though.

We had a couple of “kid” couples which was really one guy with two girls and it was really messy. They also didn’t really know how to be cordial afterwards. It was a bit tiring for everyone.

[Oliverlogan263]

Here are a few potential issues with having a relationship at work:

- It could make things awkward or tense if you break up. You still have to see each other every day.

- Your personal life might interfere with your work if you're distracted or have fights. Could hurt your performance.

- It could damage your reputation at work if others see it as unprofessional. They might think you're not focused.

- There may be rules against it at your company for liability reasons. If it causes disputes, they don't want to be involved.

- Your partner could accuse you of harassment or vice versa if things end badly just to get back at you. Then HR has to get involved.

- You might get treated differently by managers and coworkers. Like they'd think you're getting special treatment or favors.

- What if one of you changes teams or jobs? Then you don't see each other as much and it stresses the relationship.

That's not to say it can't work occasionally, but it's risky. If things go south it stays messy at the office too, ya know? Might be better to keep your work and love life separate unless you're both really sure about it.

[7Phoenix7]

Perfect answer

[Oliverlogan263]

@7Phoenix7 thank you

[wysiwyg2525]

Well if thing font workout and it's a hard breakup it's going to creat work conflict. Also the work flirting can be a form of sexual harassment to others. As an employer they are paying you to do a job and to do it well. They are not paying you to hookup or make friends. Your in the wrong line of work if your seachong to date someone. It's a bad situation no matter how you look at it. But best of luck.

[IslaTheWitch]

If it won't work, you can end having an enemy at work.

I'm not sure why but in all places I worked where people had romances or relationships and it didn't work, only women changed the job...

But not my experience, I can write only what I observed

[sheikalana]

Because it’s unprofessional. If something goes wrong you’re gonna have to see that person everyday. And let’s say you guys move in together or even end up getting married and God forbids your company starts laying off people and ends up laying off the both of you that’s two people with bills in common to pay that now don’t have a job.

[Funnygirl1500]

I used to work fast food. Anyway, I had a boyfriend there and I got caught sucking his dick in the back room.

[slatyb]

It's a bad idea if either of the people won't be able to continue to behave professionally if the relationship ends. But many couples do meet at work.

[systemsareyo]

"but many couples do meet at work" - and that's bingo right there, someone will have to resign if they're both employees, wiser owl would say hoot hoot 🦉👌👍😁 that's just my 29 aged wisdom lol 😆

[systemsareyo]

It's one thing to date someone in a similar industry or same industry, or even same job type, just not at the same work company neither at the same workplace either, is my wisdom to myself. I've never dated coworkers for the record.

[systemsareyo]

Ever 😁 and happy for it. 😀

[systemsareyo]

Or people should wait to date, which is when one of them resigns or works elsewhere. Lol. Problem solved says my mind to me lol brain 🧠

[systemsareyo]

"then a former employee" and with relatable interests/past experiences relatable. Lol. Once one or both is a former employee/former employees 😎

[MemeSupreme]

so like look... im not trying to be mean but like how do you not see any issues that could come from it lol

[Twalli]

You need time apart to cool down after an argument or fight. If you're at work together, you can't get that separation. If one of you is promoted then there's a power imbalance which can affect your job or their job.

[systemsareyo]

People, my ethos at 29 is, lol, people are people and they're gonna date lol: just don't date someone who works for the same company as one's own self/yours lol. It's easy to date someone who works in the same industry or field, just not the same employer, duh I tell myself lol (I've never dated/not dating anyhow) 😃😊

[WhitneySnow]

Your boss and the company you work for won’t like it. Plus if you break up you have to see each other every day at work.

[KittygosMeoWW]

Don’t give competition leverage against you, not all relationships work out. I would never date or fuck with anyone at the place I earn an income from.

[9in_Serpent]

It can get you in trouble and fired or……….. it can get you promoted! Lmfao 😂

[SeaStorm1]

just drama and being jealous and some workplace might have rules that can't date or been inrelatioship with any collogue.

[OddBeMe]

Because breaking up wouldn’t be the hardest part.

[Jmmmfi4]

NEVER ENDS WELL