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My coworkers wife told me to stop following him. Did I do the right things?

I (f25) have a coworker (m50) that I am close with. We both worked at the same university and have a lot of the same friends, and at our new job, we hate the same people. We are "close" but we don't hangout outside of work, we don't contact each other after hours, I ask about his wife and kids at least once a week (if he doesn't bring them up first), etc. We don't flirt, just vent. Yesterday, a lady came up to me asking for a favor. She told me to stop following him around and that everyone could see what was going on and I knew it too. I was shocked because I had no idea who she was. But then it clicked and I couldn't say anything except that I was sorry. I just talked to one of my coworkers who said she actually had to talk to the wife a couple of weeks ago. Apparently I've been on her radar for awhile. my other coworker (K) told me that the wife called her a few weeks ago to ask about me. K said she told her she had nothing to worry about, but I am not sure that I appreciate either of them keeping this from me. I spoke with HR. I first started off with saying that I do not want anything done or said for the time being, and made that very clear. I told her what happened, but not who it was. She, however, already knew who it was. She told me that she had seen us together frequently, but it never seemed like anything more than work related things. I assured her it wasn't anything more than that. She said that they could have the wife banned from the campus, but I said no. She then said that if it happens again to just call the cops. Let them know this is the second time she's harassed you at work. I briefly saw my coworker this morning. He was going to enter into our main office, but then stopped and walked the other way. I never made eye contact with him, this was all out of the corner of my eye. The next time I see him won't be for another couple of days. Did I do the right thing?

My coworkers wife told me to stop following him. Did I do the right things?
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