Why would my "friend" constantly try to sabotage me? (Page 2)
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simple as she is older and now you are getting noticed and its making her feel competitive, try this: next time you are around some cute guys, return the uplifting favor she did for you when you felt unpretty and try and make her feel good about herself again,... she is probly saying in her head..."she thinks she's hot shit now and going to try and slurp up on all the dudes" You just need to remind her that you are still the same sweet person as before, but know you have a nice body to go with it.
She must see you as a threat now cuz you lost weight and you're younger. Being younger than her was ok before when you were chunky, but now you're actually competition in her eyes so she has to steal attention away. She's jealous. My advice: ditch her, she never had respect for you in the first place.
She sounds awful honestly I feel as if she doesn't want you getting any attention, she'd rather have it for herself. she's acting childish and you're trying to make a change in ur life so it might be the appropriate time to drop her or at least distance urself when u r talking to guys
Why doesn't really matter but if it helps, it's some combination of nature/nurture/choices that makes people into horrible human beings.
What does matter is choosing to remove toxic people from your life, life is far to precious to waste it being hurt and stressed out by disfunctional people.
re: Update
Praise GOD
you have become strong enough to realize that 133 strikes = you're out!
Of course you'll forgive her and release all those questions, fears and trust issues going forward with others.
But just because we forgive, we don't have to trust in false prophets DO WE?
Pity the next gal she chooses to be her goat.
she is probably threatened by you going off with a guy and she being left without you, or just plain jealous that you're getting more attention than she. If she helped you b4 its prob bc you were more over weight at the time and she figured it wouldn't happen for you. Now that you're getting healthy and sexy, she is not happy. That is not ok... not even a little. I would ditch her and go find a female friend that empowers you not that a is threatened by you.
Sounds like a frenemy. You deserve a lot better than a petty jealous "friend". Just remember a real true friend puts you first no matter what not does things like that. Don't make excuses for her. Not everyone you lose is a loss. I say walk away before this gets more toxic :) hope everything works out
It's called "friending up". You pick someone that you believe is beneath you, so that you can feel better about yourself. She was using you to make herself feel better, but now that you're becoming stronger, she feels threatened.
I'm a little late, but I just wanted to say "Good for you!!!" For someone in her 30s to be doing childish things like this, she has a lot of growing up to do. She's a damn bitch. I'd beat her if I wasn't a man. Don't restart that friendship. She's a bitch, and she always will be.
Honey, she isn't a friend. Dump that bitch, hell even slap her in the face. That would put her on her heels and tell her you're confident and are well to do on your own. then turn heel and leave her in the dust. She's a nasty skank thats been lacking in self respect, not you.
Congrats on sticking up for yourself!! She's not a friend. And based on her reaction to your new makeover and luck with guys, she's never been your friend. Jealousy brings out a person's true personality in my opinion. Do not. I repeat. DO NOT. Take her back as a friend. It only gives her an excuse to keep doing what she's doing.
WOW !! With friends like that , who need enemies.. For real get away from her , and do it now. It sounds to me like she is jelous of your new found confidence and new aquired luck with the guys. Let's be honest a true friend would not sabatage you.
Just go out with other people, tell her you can still hang around but not if she is a bitch like this. She is just jealous because you finally have succes with men and maybe she even thinks you are more attractive than her.
It sounds like your friend has some serious issues. A real friend has your back no matter what! In that guy situation, she should have helped things along by talking you up instead of down. Friends like that are only going to hold you back. Congrats on overcoming your shy problem. A good friend would give valuable advice and help build up your self confidence as well. I'm sure that once you choose better company to hang out with, it'll have a huge impact on your dating skills.
Looks like your friends is not too old for these types of jokes. I would try going out without her. Have a heart to heart she might be only having a laugh with you or she might well be jealous only one way to to be sure what her intentions are.
she isn't ur friend. Friends won't hurt you. she is seeing you as competition and because you are much younger than her, all the more she felt threatened. We need to draw a line between friend and acquaintance.
Dump her, the sooner the better. She is one of those "friends" where as long as you are ugly, she likes you. But when you become a threat to her shine, then she must find other ways to put you down. She doesn't really care about you, she just took advantage of you being fat, so she could look hotter.
She's not a friend, if she's jealous of you when you're finally finding some luck and maybe a great man someday. She's stopping you from doing that, so please cut her off.
Friends don't sabotage you. Friends support you and pick you up when you're down. If she's not doing that, why do you need her in your life?
She's a bitch. No matter how much she begs to be your friend again, don't do it! Good luck in the future!