Should I unfriend my sister on facebook?

[KindHeartedBeauty]

She's my older sister, she's 28 and basically jealous of me and my whole life because I'm doing better than her in life. She NEVER likes ANY of my post, especially when I'm posting about good things that I'm doing. Recently I moved into a nice beautiful house and everyone was commenting saying nice things etc... NOT HER (HATER) Then I started school this week and posted how excited I was about my first day and everyone was telling me congrats, their proud of me and wishing me luck. NOT HER, but the same day she posted a pic of her and her ugly girlfriend. I have ALWAYS been there for her and supported her since we were kids, but when it comes to me she's never there. When her 28th birthday came around I was the ONLY one who went out with her. I also know she's jealous of me and my boyfriend ltr because she's always in and out of relationships. She has NO TYPE of real relationship with my kids at all, she never calls me or comes to see me at all. My son started a playing pee-wee basketball and she didn't come to ANY of his games. At this point I just feel like what's the point in even keeping her as a fb friend. I'm done with her and trying to have a relationship with her. She's dead to me.

Yes Delete Her

No, don't delete her (explain please)

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+1 y

And I'm tired of being taken advantage of by her, like I only exist wihen she needs something.

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+1 y

I love how people talks a mouth full of horse shit then blocks me, so I can't respond. SO MATURE coming from a person talking about maturity. IF YOU'RE READING THIS @accrevire you're comment was just as immature, catty and bitchy CUNT! If you can't take it don't dish it out and then go run and hide

[Niere]

I understand your situation. I hated my mother's youngest brother. My mom is a fighter, she started working to support her family (fed her one little sister and 2 younger brother) at the age of 12 years old. She paid for the all their school fees, while she had to work really hard to get a scholarship so that she wouldn't need to pay for her own school fee. Anyway when her youngest brother entered college, he started to cause lots of trouble. He stole things, robed, in and out of jail, even got a woman pregnant. My mom paid all of the lost he caused, paid his debts, shed lots of tears for him, but change never really came. She loved him very much yet he never returned that love, so I hated him. Then my father told my mom to back off from this stupid youngest brother's life, to never help him anymore, to let him taste his doing cause that is the only way to make him grow, to make him realize how much my mom had done for him. And guess wht? that worked, he's a father of 3 kids now, lives out of town, and has a real job. He may not be that wealthy, but he knows how to live a good life now, though it took 3 years for him to get it right. So my suggestion, don't delete her, just leave her be. Sometimes, you need to let someone feel like they are on their own to realize how much love they had ever had from their closest person. Hope this helps :)

[KindHeartedBeauty]

Thank you very much! I was gonna call her and be like oh. You didn't know I started school? Guess what? I'm not doing that because I know she knows already, but just doesn't care. Glad someone can relate to me :) I'm sorry your mothers brother was like that, its just so shameful how "family" could treat others.

[Niere]

You're welcome 😊

[σαςReverie]

No, don't delete her from Facebook. You sound SO catty. You are way too old to be telling yourself that this passive aggressive attitude is acceptable. Instead of verbally telling her what you just told us, you want to just delete her from FB to maybe hurt her feelings -_- That's the work of a little girl not a 24 year old woman.

She's family so even if she's not being the best sister, you could at least try to be a good sister and openly communicate with her instead of just vilifying her in your mind. Tell her how you feel and have some compassion. Afterall, parents aren't forever. One day your parents are going to die and she's all you're going to have. You'd feel real stupid for further adding onto a wedge in the relationship over things that could have been resolved.

[KindHeartedBeauty]

I did OPENLY communicate with her, I've expressed to her PLENTY OF TIMES that we should start spending more time together etc. All she says is yeah you're right and I never hear from her for like 2 months and WE LIVE IN THE SAME TOWN. I called her yesterday, but her phone was off. I'm being FAR from immature, and I shouldn't be being talked to this way just because I'm expecting support from my "big sister" Like WTF IS IT A BAD THING TO FEEL HURT THAT YOUR OWN" SISTER" COULDN'T EVEN CALL YOU AND TELL YOU CONGRATS ON STARTING SCHOOL. I'M FCKN HUMAN, NOT A ROBOT. I HAVE FEELINGS..

[KindHeartedBeauty]

No she's not all I'm going to have. She should be feeling that way about me, because I'VE ALWAYS BEEN THERE FOR HER, WHEN NOBODY ELSE WAS, SO I DON'T WANNA HEAR THAT SHIT

[KindHeartedBeauty]

She's family? Yeah she's sure acting like it, I've had strangers treat me better and support me better than she can ever think of, but "she's family" TUHHH!

[σαςReverie]

You are way too sensitive.

[σαςReverie]

You are being overly sensitive and you need to chill out

[KindHeartedBeauty]

No it's not about me being sensitive. I guess you wouldn't understand until one day you have someone in your life that you have been nothing but nice, generous and supportive to, yet every time you have a great moment in life they're NEVER THERE. Especially when it's your sister. If this was some girl off of the streets or someone I just knew I wouldn't care at all. All these responses just seem to tell me KEEP GIVING, BE THERE FOR HER, UNDERSTAND HER ETC When that's all I've ever been ONLY one person here seemed to understand me and the position I'm in. How is she the victim here? L

[σαςReverie]

I have two big sisters and I know how it is. You are being way too sensitive. You're being irrational, lashing out, and not acting in a logical way. Instead of telling her all that you're telling us, you seem to think that her finding out her own flesh and blood deleted her from FB will suffice. Honestly, you make her look like a victim with the childish, rude, nasty, condescending way you conduct yourself

[KindHeartedBeauty]

Have you not read any of my other comments? I HAVE TOLD HER ALL OF THIS BEFORE AND STILL... I NEVER HEAR FROM HER UNTIL SHE WANTS SOMETHING FROM ME.

[KindHeartedBeauty]

by the way what you say about me sweet hear DOES NOT define who I am when I'm speaking out of frustration. You DO NOT KNOW me sweetie, your just a commenter!

[KindHeartedBeauty]

so calling me rude etc DOES NOT mean ANYTHING to me! I am WAY more that that hunny bunny :) Sorry to break it to you. That's your opinion of me based on 1 PASSAGE I wrote about a very small situation in my life.

[truelight32]

I came here for the same issue and hoping for resolution with the answers you recieved. I've come to the conclusion, you need to (myself as well) give our sisters the benefit of the doubt and give them a chance. Talk to her. If you did all you can and talked to her then what else is there to do. Don't be so quick to cut her off without doing yourself a favor and her as well as saying what you want to say and possibly finding resolution.

[Sociopathvictim]

Siblings tend to get bored as we grow up around each other and just want to find new people and make a new life. I have a twin and an elder bro and both only come to me when they need me, its the same with me (mutual). I just dont find enjoyment from them because they compare, just the way you have. They compete and expect me to be responsible. If they ever came to me for help, id help. Think about that as you might be more well off now but later you might not and if you had a bad event, she will always welcome you as a sister. Friends however always move on. Don't delete her from FB like she's nothing to you, that shows lack of respect for your blood and you'll regret it for the rest of your life.

[bryon]

I can feel you on this subject as my brother and I also have the oil and water style of a relationship. The only time he call or comes to see me is when he needs something. But he didn't start to come ask for what ever it is until I stopped answering his calls. It finally got on my nerves to the point I just told him if you can't visit me when your not in need just don't visit at all. While it is your sister and the way she is doing you is just messed the he!! Up it may be better to block her rather than let it keep your nerves and mind tore up.

[KindHeartedBeauty]

EXACTLY! Last month she called me for $50 dollars and I gave her the money, guess what I didn't hear from her again until 3 weeks later when she texted me asking me for money

[bryon]

OMG !! Nooo way !

[bryon]

I'm biting my tongue now

[countryboy19]

You don't have to delete her, just don't look at her page.
That may sound cheesy, but f you delete her, in a way it says that she finally got to you.

[KindHeartedBeauty]

Thanks for your non judgmental answer. Instead of trying to tell me how I should FEEL about this situation, you simply suggested what you would possibly do and why. I didn't come here to be BASHED for basically being sick and tired of my sisters SELFISH ways. Some people had so much to say, but neither of those people had anything to say about her using me for money which has NOTHING to do with social media.

[countryboy19]

Your very welcome.
You are free to delete her on Facebook but to me, doing that just says that she had gotten to you.
Good luck with the whole situation.

[badger25]

its kinda pathetic if liking Facebook posts is important to a adult relationship.
however it is unfortunate that she only calls you when she needs you. but it sounds like maybe she needs you more than you need her. you don't need to give her money or anything all the time. but she does need your emotional support. try to be the better person and help her get herself to the position you are in. maybe that will open her up to support you and your families successes

[KindHeartedBeauty]

I've TRIED THAT!!! I feel like it's nothing more that I can do to try to help her and support her. WHAT ABOUT ME? That's the point that everyone is missing here, while I HAVE been there and supportive of her she acts like I DON'T EVEN exist. It's not about a fb like I just feel like that's the LEAST she can do since she's on it almost 24/7 All she cares about is whoever she's in a relationship with. THAT'S IT!

[badger25]

well i guess thats a shitty and unfair situation to be in. but it doesn't change my advice. life isn't always fair for you or her. so you can choose to cut her out of your life, but if she ever does get her shit together she may resent you for it. or you can continue to give her emotional support and encourage her to come and hang out with you and your family.

[Anonymous]

id say delete and block her if she's being that mean to u and deactivate your Facebook so that she won't see that your on Facebook I have a cousin who I used to fallow on Facebook and I remmber she used invade my news on Facebook with tuns of curse words and she wouldn't stop cursing so I had to delete and block her from my Facebook page and then I deactivated my Facebook

[KindHeartedBeauty]

I'm not deactivating my Facebook because of her, but I see what you're saying. Thanks!

[Opinion Owner]

your welcome

[RasmusAiken]

It sure sounds like she has a stick up her butt. Still she is family. Try working harder on your "KindHeartedBeauty" traits and give her a break.

[rthomas43]

How fucking petty can you be? I think I can see why she doesn't want a relationship with you.

[KindHeartedBeauty]

And I can see why you're always on here commenting on shit because you have no life or friends, you're a fucking loser for you insensitive comment.

[rthomas43]

"if you don't have anything nice to say shut you BIG FAT IGNORANT FACE UP"

You're smart enough to understand the hypocrisy of your statement, right?

[KindHeartedBeauty]

You're comment was ignorant and malicious! POINT BLANK!

[BumbleDeev]

His comment was pretty valid actually. @asker You're the one who is depending on likes on social media as a sign of people supporting you. Likes mean nothing. You should confront her about it face to face instead of being a coward and defriending her. Social media isn't going to solve the problem

[KindHeartedBeauty]

Coward? Really? I can do wtf I want, therefore I can friend/unfriend who I want under my own discretion. I don't need a reason. You're actually validating my point because if it's just "social media" then why would it be petty just because I did unfriend her? You're both shallow minded!

[σαςReverie]

@Asker what the hell. Did you come here to find out people's genuine opinions or to lash out at anyone who's not a cheerleader for your petty, passive aggressive consideration?
The way you're responding to these people for simply doing what you asked, giving their opinions, is absolutely ridiculous.

[KindHeartedBeauty]

@BumbleDeev

[KindHeartedBeauty]

@aacreverie you really just came here to be a nuisance go back to where you came from!

[KindHeartedBeauty]

What about her using me for money? Someone answer that w/o talking about social media because it has nothing to do with that. ... I'll wait? Is that my fault too? Hahaha!

[σαςReverie]

@Asker, I didn't come to be a nuisance. I came to inform you that you look ridiculous, childish, and to be honest, you're showing everyone why your sister chooses to remain absent from your life. No one wants to be around this. You sound really whiny and hostile... you lash out at people and bicker and badger us because we're not giving you a pat on the back for a petty choice. I'm starting to think you acted like this with her and she decided to keep her space from you which is why she's not acting like the sister you want her to be

[BumbleDeev]

I don't see why her not liking your photos or posts matter. Liking pictures is no sign of support about anything. It is the poorest way to communicate with someone. Likes don't mean anything

[KindHeartedBeauty]

OMG is that the only thing I talked about in this post? She doesn't show support of me in ANY WAY but I'm supposed to be there for her? I'm done responding to close minded shallow answers.