Can a bad relationship with their own parents be a red flag?

[Damiandash312]

Now first off by no means do I consider a bad relationship with parents a deal breaker, but I do see it as a potential red flag (of course there's plenty of times in which it is reasonable)
Maybe I'm just a little traumatized from a past person I knew lol
so how bout you? Do you consider a SOs relationship with their parents as a red flag

[xobrowneyedbeauty]

Yes definitely. That's the first relationship they were exposed to. If it's not healthy then there's a decent chance they haven't figured out how to have a healthy relationship yet. You should talk to them about the relationship with the parents more - I think if this person has insight into why the relatiobship isn't good then they explored it more which might mean they have a better understanding of how to have a healthy relationship and just sadly don't have one with their parents.

[Damiandash312]

For sure! In my case I'm just wondering this cuz I realized what a breath of fresh air it is that the girl I'm talking to right now was so friendly to her mom on FB. It's strabfe that before that wasn't attractive to me until the horrible gal incident lol

[FallenAngel92]

Yes and No. I think it depends. My current boyfriend doesn't know his dad and his mom ran off a left when he was 3. So no I don't blame him for not having a relationship with his mother, and as for his dad you can't have a relationship with someone you don't know. He has a great relationship with his grandparents who raised him.

[Damiandash312]

Well i would consider his grandparents to be the parent relationship in this case, but yes you can't help absent parents.

[FallenAngel92]

So would I, but his grandparents made sure he knew they were his grandparents and not his parents. So he never called them mom or dad, that he remembers. But he turned out great in my opinion.

[TheEmma]

No because there are many reasons why they could have a bad relationship. Maybe it's the parents fault so I would try to find out what the problem is before worrying.

[Damiandash312]

Very true, I think it's wrong to judge before understanding a stituation

[Hephaestus]

nope
that's their busness

so long as it's not like
"i don't get along with my parents... they disprove of me wanting to kill people then bathe in their blood while singing show tunes"

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[Damiandash312]

What would be wrong with show tunes in the blood of your victims, sounds dandy!

[Tractorbeam]

Nope. Some parents don't deserve a good relationship.

[Damiandash312]

I definitely agree there. Abusers being one such example

[MissNowhere]

Another red flag on my head lol... I have a horrible relationship with my parents. I'd kinda maybe in a way even prefer if a guy doesn't have the best relationship with his parents because some of those who have a perfect relationship with them wouldn't be able to understand my situation.
So in no way is it a red flag for me cause I'm in that same boat.

[Damiandash312]

Fair enough, I think I felt the same way cuz of my father for a long time, but I've since changed my mind after recent things messed with me pretty bad

[BellePepper]

Nope. Some parents are downright toxic. I'd admire a person more for breaking away from a bad situation rather than sticking in one.

[Klaatu51]

i don't care since i'n not dating her parents basically... ;-)

[Damiandash312]

True but you might have to deal with them or the damage they caused

[MosaicMind]

It depends, I don't know if the parents are at fault so it's hard to judge. I dated a guy with rude parents who controlled him too much.

[Damiandash312]

For sure, some parents really are the issue.

[smexiliciousss]

it does have an affect on them whether they realize or not

[Damiandash312]

You're quite right