How would this affect your relationship with your parents?

[Anonymous]

If your mother made it clear that her love was unconditional. She made sure to let you know she was proud of you, and was always there and available to you. On the other hand, your father was kind of detached. He was always a good provider, but he wasn't affectionate and never showed his approval. Later in life, would you be give more of your time to your mother or your father (they are now split up)?

[SPIRIT208]

That’s basically my life (up until that last little bit) but I don't know, it’s still ok, but it’s painful sometimes that it feels like no matter what you do, you can’t get approval from your father, but on the flip side the mother is over-affectionate, but never quite understanding. Both sides are just as painful (in my experience) it definitely hurts sometimes but overall, they’re there for you generally, if you aren’t comfortable falling back on them for support, it just further trains you for preparation of the real world (no matter how old you are in life)

[scentoflavender]

People are inherently different. As such they love differently as well. If the man has always done right by you, that's important. My father was like yours. I struggled with it most of my life. It took me being a parent for a while to learn what he valued more than me liking him was that he did right by me and taught me to demand that others treat me the same. Either way, call both of them. I'm sure they'd love to hear from you.

[BoopBoopBeep]

That's a false dichotomy. No reason you can't spend a week with each of them.