How does marijuana affect your relationship(s)?

[Anonymous]

This is directed more to people who smoke weed, but if you're one of those people who honestly feel the need to say how weed is bad go for it, I don't care. Do you (weed smokers) prefer your partner to smoke also or do you not care? What if they smoke more than you do, is it that a good or bad thing?

[ZenQueen]

It's good and bad.

good: It gave me and my boyfriend a common interest, that we could share together. We bonded, learning how to grow the plant and comparing the effects of different strands and overall sharing the whole weed culture. It made sex more interesting, and felt way better, It made it easier to talk to each other (but eventually made it harder...)

the bad: He loved weed more than me, It got to be all he cared about, he was working 3 jobs to support his habit and didn't have enough time for me. Also when I needed to quit for a while, he did nothing to support me.. he continued to smoke and be high around me. I feel like he was pushing aside a lot of his emotional problems by smoking weed, and so was I. It never got to be the real caring and supportative relationship we were both after because of this.

In conclusion... "stoners"(along with drug addicts and alcoholics) don't make good long term bf's, I do believe in using mj medicinally, but it should be treated as the sacred herb it is not overindulged like how people eat food til they're obese. If he can use it responsibly and has a good head on his shoulders, he will be a good bf.

[Armada]

I vote this for best answer.

I would not mind if my partner smokes more than I do as long as she is on top of her sh*t.feel that people seem to be smoking WAY too much nowadays. Growing up I was really for legalization of it so every can smoke it and I still am to an extent. People are just abusing it now like alcohol and cigarettes though is has more benefits than either one. It is an amazing plant with amazing qualities but people are seriously just raping it now.

[Asker]

totally agree with both of you.

[ZenQueen]

true Armada. Abusing/over indulging in anything usually means you have issues you are not dealing with and you are wasting resources others may need. I am skeptical about its legalization, will it become what tobacco is today? processed and full of chemicals, controlled by big business (no more local growers), much like our food.. I can almost guarentee that will happen, just by looking at history. We can only have faith in the good people who see what is happening and don't give in. Grow your o

[ZenQueen]

wn if you can:)

[Asker]

Exactly.

[Anonymous]

my ex used to smoke and I didnt.. still dont. I initially dint know how I felt abt it. But I did feel it was affecting our relationship since he(I think) was ashamed of it and dint wanna do it in front of me or call me when he was high. but his need to smoke took a lot of time away from us. but the main prob was he did not process his emotions/ anger etc the way people should which left a huge disconnect with a lot of misunderstandings between us ultimately leading to our breakup. The sad apart is we both believed we were each others soul mates.

So I would say either both should smoke or both shouldn't. From what I understand its a big part their lives and non smokers would never 'get it'

If not, in order to make it work it would take a lot of patience, maturity and understanding on both parts to let a lot of things go. or one starts smoking to become a part of the other persons life or one mite want the other person to quit( which we all kno if not done when the person himself wants to can lead to a lot of unpleasantness)

As far one smoking more or less has more to do with the individuals personality than the quantity itself.

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I actually got in a little argument about this last night, I feel that it's OK to do occasionally when your stressed or whatever, and have nothing else important such as school or work going on that night or early the next morning, but his best friend is a complete stoner, he smokes several times per day, whenever we all hang out or they hang out his friend is pressuring him or us to smoke which is awesome, but not alll the time. My boyfriend has similar views as I, but he would prefer to smoke more than me. While I don't mind him smoking every now and then I get annoyed when he wants to too much...but he is really cool about it and respects my feelings lol, but personally I do believe it has an effect on relationships, sometimes good and sometimes bad haha

[Asker]

I agree in some aspects. If a person is going to smoke they should learn how to balance it, for a lack of a better term, with everyday life and responsibilities.

[Opinion Owner]

Ya, moderation is the most important thing when smoking and stuff like that.

[Hjominbonrun]

if you are both weed smokers then it is good. If not, it is a deal breakers.

[bleepbloop]

yes I prefer if my partner smoked because I smoke