How much do your past relationships affect your current relationship?

[charles]

For example, are you afraid to start a relationship or commit because you have experienced a painful breakup in the past? Or do you have trust issues?

[Finchie40]

My ex wife was definitely a learning experience in my life as to why I am the way I am today , It definitely took a toll on my whole outlook of love and relationships of understanding selfishness is the number 1 relationship killer, and without trust and respect you have nothing , We can’t force someone to love us , all we can do is give to someone the same way we want to receive , We can only remove selfishness for someone that removes it the same for us , understanding you are no longer single and that your partner needs to be your top priority over everyone , the same way your partner needs to make you their top priority as well , or the relationship will not last , understanding you can’t always be right and they are wrong , understanding it’s you and your partner VS the world , understanding their is negativity all around us , that can easily pull you away from your partner , If you can not sacrifice for your partner , don’t expect them to sacrifice for you period. I no longer rush into relationships , for me to give my heart completely to a girl, I need to feel she is by my side no matter what , I don’t tell her what to do she just needs to do it or she isn’t the girl for me , when she makes me her top priority no matter what , she becomes my top priority , Honesty is the only thing that really attracts me to a girl , The chemistry and connection that we have and share together is what matters most. If she treats me like a King she will definitely be my Queen , if she treats me like a joker , I will run Wild , I no longer tolerate selfish behavior when I am in a relationship with a girl , I didn’t commit to her to be single and she clearly needs to do the same or there’s the door and she can go live her selfish ways elsewhere , failing at every relationship she encounters. I thought I was going to be married to my ex for the rest of my life but her selfishness took the better of her , by being vulnerable to a co worker that just wanted to fuck her , He sweet talked his way and got his way because she fell for his bullshit and little did she realize my gut instincts new something was off between her and I , so I busted them red handed , it was devastating , cuz I wanted to believe it was bullshit , but sadly it wasn’t , so that was my final straw to end it with her and kick her to the curb where she belongs. Life is too short to be with someone that tries to write Sucker on your head , If a girl sets boundaries with me she needs to follow those boundaries as well or the relationship won’t last cuz I no longer allow girls to take advantage of me , If she doesn’t fight to be by my side I will not fight to be by hers , I don’t care how hot a girl is , if she doesn’t have moral beliefs and doesn’t know what it means to be in a relationship or marriage she isn’t the girl for me , She might be a good time but not a long time , If a girl can’t stay faithful and loyal to me , I so won’t be faithful and loyal to her. I can’t stand selfish people period , if you are single be selfish all you want but when you chose to be in a commitment that shit needs to end cuz Incan only give what I want to receive , Girls I have dated after my divorce we’re all selfish girls that only cared about themselves , so my ass is staying single until I find a girl that isn’t selfish period that understands the true meaning of a relationship. Honesty is the key to my heart

[Kris31]

I'd say yes. First of all the positives is like you learned how to maybe behave / say something in certain situations that unnecessarily created a pointless conflict. You can avoid or handle stuff like that better. You learn more about what a girl wants when you just asked your ex back then giving you easier tips on what some girls like or no.

As for the negative coming from a longer relationship now I personally don't feel like going for another one because it's the same all over again. Happy period then the love period then the we having fun period and then the serious period where it all kinda boils down if its future proof or not.

[Emelina]

The past relationships effects my relationship now in a good way... I learn from the past by seeing what was good and not so good and passing it over to the relationship I currently have now (which I don't at the present moment) and even if it was a bad break up, I am cautious of my own emotions that will not allow me to be afraid of loving again... every relationship is different and every men will not be thesame as the other, so I take my chances and enjoy the relationship I am in.

[Emelina]

Thanks for the MHG 🙂

[DizzyDesii]

Not as much as people think. I’ll look at the new guy as his own person. But if he says or does something I dont like, I will share my last experience as to explain why I dont like that thing. Some feel its comparing your current to your ex. No its just me letting you know what bullshit I refuse to go through again. As for trust, I trust until given a reason not to

[OlderAndWiser]

Everything from my past has shaped and molded me into the person I am today. Isn't that true for all of us?

[CreatingWonders]

Well as my first relationship was an abusive one I know for a fact that it’s going to effect any others I have, even just talking to people online now makes me question everything about them, I wonder if it’s her pretending to be someone else to get to me (she’s stalking me) I don’t feel that I can connect with anyone now as I’m always looking out for red flags which makes talking to anyone just awkward and tiresome, so I’d rather just stay alone it’s easier and that way I don’t have to worry about who they really are or if it’s her or not and I can just relax.

[asphaltrhymes]

Even if never been in one, I've learnt a lot just from having 'known of' others relationships, the pitfalls, the triumphs, the positives or the negatives.
Plus, I also feel like I know the feeling, however different or not, of what I look for or I don't look for in potential matches. It's just something I've learnt about myself or how I've changed over time and I keep changing merrily like anyone 😁

[Phoenix98]

Not in a relationship but I did have a lot of problems left over from my previous relationship.

Though I’ve fixed em now you could say the experience has made me cautious and leary when it comes to relationships. Or rather who I choose to be with.

[Quigly]

You definitely learn from your past. In the past, you saw red flags in the beginning of relationships and you gave them the benefit of the doubt and you realize giving people the benefit of the doubt when they show red flags is a big, big mistake.

[Billlewis]

With each relationship, I learn new ways to serve a woman and the lucky guys she's dating, and the more practice I get, the better I become at pleasing the woman who owns me and worshipping the ground she walks on.

[magiusX26]

what relationship? my past is so broken that i learned i can't trust like that ever again nor can i feel that deeply again. i gave tried allowing myself to feel that deeply and that ability to feel is just gone.

[TooHot2Care]

Like every Marvel Villain who doesn't seem so bad says at about a third into the movie: I'm evil.

[Nikki1989]

Not much for me. I don't spend much time looking backwards.

[DiegoO]

I haven't had any other relationship since then. Really wise decision, considering the storm I am facing.

[DiegoO]

I somewhat think on my past relationship, but the thoughts are more sexual than anything.

[DiegoO]

How that will affect my future relationship? Ah, not sure. I learned a lot from my past relation. One of the things I learned is to not set to trivial expectations.

[DiegoO]

to not set trivial expectations*

[SolitarySolace]

I haven't had a relationship because of my past relationships

[OddBeMe]

As much as any experience I imagine. Maybe more so as it’s relative to experiences with new relationships. We learn from previous takes.

[shades777]

yiu mean like talking to an ex while in a new relationship? bo thats hella disrespectful and I wouldn't tolerate it

[Fireguy17]

If anything, I tend to be a bit more cautious now.

[LiamJHayden]

I don't let yesterday kill tomorrow.

[CuriousMufuxka]

I don't ask and don't tell. Clean slate.

[najekim]

None. Each is different.

[Butterflyflyhigh]

A lot...