Do you ever feel like cutting ties with everyone close to you?

Question

As the question says? Would you want to permanently or just take like a mini holiday? 

How do you deal with these feelings if you get them?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yeah, I felt like that for awhile. Then I did it, and now I'm alone. Really. May as well be honest. My best friend died which aided my decision to off myself and after feeling that, I didn't want anyone else to feel the same way. I planned to kill myself, so I pushed everyone away, because I didn't want them to be upset that I died. Life happens, I ended up in a coma but somehow survived, then decided that dying is pretty painful and terrifying so I'd rather not die, and now I'm alone. I sorta pissed off too many people and portrayed myself in a pretty negative way.

But you know. You don't know what you have until it's gone. I'm okay with it now, and there's still time to find others, if I want to at any point. But I still miss my friends.

All that said, there's nothing to stop you from taking a mini holiday. Sometimes a bit of time apart can do people good. Like introverts especially who need some time to recharge after being around a lot of people. I get like that sometimes when I'm around people for too long. I just leave and do my own thing for awhile to recharge my batteries. Whereas extroverts get recharged when they're mingling with a bunch of people, introverts are the opposite.

In the end, though, however much someone pisses you off or irritates you, humans are innately social creatures. So much so that a baby will die without being held or touched--so much so that prisoners go insane when they're taken away from murderers and other sorts of criminals and put into isolation. Isolation is a very bad thing for humans, long-term.

But, in the end, it just depends on what you get out of the relationships. If you don't get anything out of them, then there's not much point in having them.

Lovelinefan · Accepted Answer

I think I know the feeling you're talking about.

Occasionally I get that thought, though it never lasts long.

Sometimes the idea of starting fresh, a whole new life sounds interesting, but the relationships I have are too important to let go like that.
It is an interesting thought to consider though, knowing that it's an option that's available, even though you don't plan on acting on it.

justbanANNAz · Accepted Answer

my gosh yes. . .
well i kind of just step back and think of what would actually happen if i did that. i think id end up hurting a few people for no reason, so i think of a way to just be in my own space without taking it out on anyone.

i might turn off my phone for a day or just go the the gym , the shops, a cafe, anywhere to just get my mind off wanting to be so closed off.

peachblossomluck · Accepted Answer

I've taken holidays from certain people for years just to cleanse my atmosphere of them for awhile. Some people become overwhelming and can't be reasoned with. I love myself and seek self-preservation and liberty from their agendas. You don't owe them an explanation either if they are just going to be maladaptive.

Lenlexyz · Accepted Answer

I have those thoughts sometimes because I want some change in my life but I tell myself I can always make new friends but it's good to have the people that were close to me because they make my life more sane by knowing that at least something in my life is staying the same.

karahiri · Accepted Answer

yes. i really wish i could just let go of my entire family except for my dad, grandma, and one cousin. lol. i don't know what to do. you know you can't just run away, but feeling trapped all the time isn't right either.

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HandsomeRaj · Answer

I admit I do get that feeling from time to time but I just sleep it off lol

I rather prefer facing my demons than running away. If I go off for a mini holiday it will make more sense so that I return invigorated and sort out my demons.

Permanently going away will probably only repeat the sequence with new friends and stuff :)

Frost_Byt3 · Answer

No, not everyone. I don't really spend much time with my family, but i do have a few family members that i love. There are a few really good friends that i have--all of them female. But the rest of my friends can be pretty insensitive at times--especially my guy friends, and i have wanted to sever ties with them before.

zorro8888 · Answer

Yeah it happens, just have one of those days where you wish you could shut everyone out. It's never a permanent feeling but in that time I wish I could just take a trip far away for some time... but what actually happens is I'll probably go for a drive and listen to music.

teawrecks · Answer

Yep, whenever I'm feeling particularly negative about life I feel like just shutting everyone out and not speaking to them any longer. Not because they annoy me or piss me off, but because I feel too toxic to be around them with how negative I feel.

It usually goes away after a sleep and a day off from work/the world, since I don't really socialize much on my days off. But in the meantime until I do get a day off when I'm feeling that way, I just... am less talkative to those people.

zombiebabe · Answer

sometimes yea... on bad days... but i just keep my distances then when i feel better i get closer to them but sometimes there are exceptions

chocolateismylover · Answer

I'm taking a break from my family by going away for a couple of weeks. My family is suffocating. I'm the youngest so they wanna be involved in every part of my life when I'm like " Yo fams chill and give me some space to breathe" . I love them but gosh they'res so many of em and so many different opinions on my life.

KindnessIsRealMagic9 · Answer

Yes. It's one of the reasons i ended up here. The other thing I do is retreat to my big lone personal project - the garden. Or sometimes I'll go and sit on top of my favorite hill for unnatural amounts of time. I like the sound of silence, but it also reminds I need people to care about.

cheeky_starfish · Answer

I've never felt like I've wanted to permanently cut ties with everyone I know and love... Friends and family! But I think it's totally understandable to want to take a break from everything that might be going on in your life... People, work and everything else! I think everyone needs a bit of 'me' time... A bit of time on your own... But I also think that everyone needs the friends and family they love around them too! :)

llorando · Answer

Nope sounds boring plus it's a wast of money cutting ties.

pervertedjester · Answer

I ask myself that everyday in the summer, then reality hits me in the winter. Truth is I just want to walk in the woods until something takes me out. Maybe carve "Croatoan" into a tree just to mess with people and keep them guessing.

Tdieseler · Answer

I probably already did... i have more of an online family than a real one... and they care more than the real one...

mr90skid · Answer

Yeah but not for too long though. That time alone feels great but reconnecting after that feels even better

truthhammer · Answer

I've done that cause i needed to. not everyone.

good guys get fucked over.

take time off dont do anything permanent. your feelings will change and you might want to think long about it when your heads cleared.

Mustachekitteh · Answer

Not really but I don't have a lot of people that are close to me to begin with.

Thames · Answer

I have thought of it before and I have found by distancing myself for a while helps me a lot.

apexalpha · Answer

Is this a hint you blocking me 😕 Don't do it permanently, it will be like a tattoo temporary feeling that's forever marked, take a break do something new.

archiz · Answer

Eh I don t always have people s patience. I just let it be until I feel I want to.

JSmuve · Answer

Sometimes. Then I just sit in my room and feel better. But I'd never cut ties with youuuuuuu

thegreatone7 · Answer

Yes, i do. I feel like i should go out. Meet cool people.

DamnCurtis · Answer

Yep, I often just rotate between groups of friends.

BrownBoyBrownies · Answer

No I would go crazy. Well maybe for a week then yes but not too long

Anonymous · Answer

I've been doing that with some people off of here :P

Anonymous · Answer

I just typed to a friend about 3 minutes ago that I am close to sick of people and when I get there I hibernate for a bit.

chrisbigman · Answer

Sometimes I have those moments, I have to admit, yes.

CHARismatic110 · Answer

Yes I do. Often actually.

Entity · Answer

I do that from time to time for the good of others.

Ihav2fart · Answer

No whyyy, don't cut me out

apple24 · Answer

yes because they get so anyoning.!

IwishIwasIgnacio · Answer

I have done before with my friends. I cut them off for nearly a year.

blondfrog · Answer

Yeah I feel like that right now

serious · Answer

Sometimes , I do. Yes.

adamski24 · Answer

Everyday I do

Anonymous · Answer

No, it's just my BFF cut me off 😞

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