I had sex with a guy who has a girlfriend, now I wanna be with him!

[Anonymous]

Well I had a one night stand, met this guy at the bar, he's not from where I am, I told him to look me up on facebook but he never did, probably because he is in a relationship where child and the girlfriend could see we are friends... I feel we have a connection and a lot in common and I so badly want to be with him! what should I do send him a message? or just forget him...

[peace-love-couture]

1)He has a girlfriend,you have control over your actions.Leave him alone and move on with your life.

2) This is why I dislike girls.Girls are so damn shady and fake.You know he has a girlfriend so why you are questioning what your actions should be is ridiculous to me.

3)Forget him.Move on.I would have sympathy for you,but some girls are just too damn stupid,naive and ignorant to have sympathy for.you put yourself in this situation.Sex doesn't equal a connection,it equals satisfying sexual needs.

[Asker]

I didn't know he had a gf... I found out after... and the sex didn't equal a connection it was other things about the night, like what we both wanted outta life. I felt a connection... but think ill just leave him alone.

[Reeses-pieces777]

he used you for sex because if he's not physically moving his ass away from his kid and the girl he knocked up that means he's officially with her.

sex can make you feel connected with someone but it's not everything unfortunately and a lot of guys are detached from sex and will do anything to get in the sac with a girl by trying to seem like he has a 'connection' with you but it seems the only 'connection' is sex here. sorry, just move on.

[Anonymous]

lets put it this way, you were just a one night stand. the guy was horny and needed a come dumpster and that's where you came in. if he is in a relationship and has a child the odds of him leaving that stability for a one night stand is slim to none. please forget about him you will just embarrass yourself if you try to send him a message because he does not feel the connection with u. he didn't even bother to look you up on facebook

[Hartmut]

...The guy CHEATED on his GIRLFRIEND. Think about that for a moment. Even on the very, VERY slim off-chance that he breaks up AND gets with you, who's to say that he wouldn't cheat on you later on?

You girls perplex me with no end. Why on Earth do you seem to only want the kinds of guys who are quite clearly NOT the type you should be consorting with? It makes no sense.

[peace-love-couture]

No,the stupid,naive ones do...

[Hartmut]

Okay, I generalised. My bad.

Still, does it not disturb you that there seems to be a staggeringly large population of said stupid, naive girls?

[peace-love-couture]

Yea it does...

[Asker]

Your right who's to say he wouldn't do that to me... and I know I should want him but for a lot of reasons I do... so all I was asking was should I do you think I should contact him or just forget about it...

[DevinC]

Forget him. He's not going to leave his girlfriend and kid for you. He was probably just using you for sex. Forget about him and move on.

[ambermarie]

just forget about him hun its just a little crush

you shouldn't ruin his little family he has going on he's doing it himself just give them a chance so maybe the baby can have both parents

[Anonymous]

from where came the boy you had sex with?