The title says it all. And she is very sexist towards me as well, I was wondering if any of you think the way she treats me is acceptable?
First example being that once I asked her if I could go on the pill. (In my country it’s free.) I asked her this specifically because I get very heavy, painful periods and I know for a fact the pill can help, since my friends have the same experiences as I have. I know it can also reduce acne, which I also suffer badly from. She told me no, because what if everyone else found out. Everyone at school would think I’m a slut she told me. First of all, how would everyone find out? And second of all, why should I care what other people’s opinions of me are? Isn’t a good mother meant to teach you other people’s opinions don’t matter.
She’s also told me repeatedly that I need to get a boyfriend. She tells me it will be good for me and help me get my life together. I am 16 years old, and I’m grasping onto my youth as much as I can. I do not want a boyfriend yet.
I also stopped wearing a bra some time ago, when she found out she was mortified. She asked me why I’d be asking for that kind of attention from the boys. Again, I’m 16, I’m not too bothered about what guys think of me. I stopped wearing one because I read about all the benefits of not wearing one, and plus I felt instantly comfortable with my body. But now she is shaming me for the way my body will look without one, telling me it is socially unacceptable not to wear one.
Once she found out that my friends masturbate after overhearing one of our conversations through the walls. I do this too, but she doesn’t know. She told me how disgusting my friends are, and they shouldn’t like sex. Because only men should like sex. That is wrong on so many levels.
She tells me all the time about how slutty women who wear a lot of makeup are. But again, I do not see a problem.
I could go on for hours. Do you think she’s a toxic mother?
First example being that once I asked her if I could go on the pill. (In my country it’s free.) I asked her this specifically because I get very heavy, painful periods and I know for a fact the pill can help, since my friends have the same experiences as I have. I know it can also reduce acne, which I also suffer badly from. She told me no, because what if everyone else found out. Everyone at school would think I’m a slut she told me. First of all, how would everyone find out? And second of all, why should I care what other people’s opinions of me are? Isn’t a good mother meant to teach you other people’s opinions don’t matter.
She’s also told me repeatedly that I need to get a boyfriend. She tells me it will be good for me and help me get my life together. I am 16 years old, and I’m grasping onto my youth as much as I can. I do not want a boyfriend yet.
I also stopped wearing a bra some time ago, when she found out she was mortified. She asked me why I’d be asking for that kind of attention from the boys. Again, I’m 16, I’m not too bothered about what guys think of me. I stopped wearing one because I read about all the benefits of not wearing one, and plus I felt instantly comfortable with my body. But now she is shaming me for the way my body will look without one, telling me it is socially unacceptable not to wear one.
Once she found out that my friends masturbate after overhearing one of our conversations through the walls. I do this too, but she doesn’t know. She told me how disgusting my friends are, and they shouldn’t like sex. Because only men should like sex. That is wrong on so many levels.
She tells me all the time about how slutty women who wear a lot of makeup are. But again, I do not see a problem.
I could go on for hours. Do you think she’s a toxic mother?
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