Is he staying with me and being amazing because I'm pregnant with his child?

[Anonymous]

Me and my boyfriend had a lot of relationship problems in past, since this is our 5th time being together for 2 years and 5 months, and so far its been 5 months been official together.In the past he treated me like crap and always ended it, but ever since we got back together he has been treating me amazing. Before I found out I was pregnant (which I am 3 months) he was telling a male friend of his and mine that he was saying how he doesn't wanna talk to girls which is his choice and says I'm the one and told him if things go as they are he will purpose. (I found this all out from his male friend/my friend which I wasn't suppose to know.) Well than a month later boom I find I'm pregnant, and he was very happy about this and told me not to get an abortion. He ended up moving 5 states away for a really good paying job in the oil industry. which sucks but he's always so sweet, and always tells me he loves me and is really happy about this baby and hints to me about marriage and tells me how he feels 26 or older than what he is. He is just so amazing and on Thanksgiving break bought me a new smart phone and we got a family plan together which he pays for our plan, and bought me lots of new clothes. But with being pregnant I am the biggest bitch ever with my hormones and I'm a roller coaster. But he understands it and never gets mad or frustrated or yells at me.He just puts up with everything.& I even asked him if he's with me because of this child. & he said he would never be with anyone because of his child, and that he FINALLY realized he loved me. we got a lot of future plans of when I finish up and graduate my senior year that we will get an apartment and everything. But sometimes I think its too good to be true that he finally loves me? why not before that.. he says because of him always being high on weed, So what do you think?

[Adun99]

you are right, dump that jerk. He's no good for you!

¿see the irony?

You already know he said you were "the one" one month before you got pregnant.

Yet that's not enough. He was happy when you told him and it's such a bad thing. How dares he be happy to start a family with you rather than keep looking for some other girl.

You seem to be stressed that you can't bitch about him, and are looking for an excuse to do so.

Do you still love him/like him? Because if you don't then you need to man up and accept that it's because YOU want something else, not because he messed up nor because he "only finally" realized he loved you, a bit too late or just because of the child.

If you do love/like him, then what are you doing? looking for reasons to undermine the relationship? He will make some mistakes, that's for sure. What he, you and your future kid need, is that you both be understanding and supportive of each other.

¿why is he staying with you and being amazing? Because he feels love for you, and decided to act according to it... and that since you agreed to give him a family (which includes you) he should give you his best in return

¿will he remain amazing forever? will he change once the baby is born? will he only be amazing to the baby?

He'll make mistakes eventually. He's only human. And if gets the feeling you don't love him, he'll stop putting himself out there. But for most guys who want to have kids, what matters is to have a Family (which includes you), and not just the baby. You are the at least half of the equation, and he will want you to be happy.

[Anonymous]

Congratulations on the new baby. I can't tell for sure why he changed dear. Because I don't know what he has been through, whether he went through some stuff and turned his life around or basically anything. It's only you who can judge whether he's being genuine and sincere to you now (in fact most of the girls know through observations and have a gut feeling about whether a guy is sincere). It's a wait and see situation, especially many things are still in words rather than having plans by which action has already taken. Keep an open mind, don't have expectations and take it as it comes. Always, action speak louder than words :)

Anyway, since a baby is coming on the way, the baby matters more than him regardless of anything. Just make sure regardless of your relationship with him, make sure both of you take the responsibility, provide financially and emotionally for the new child. All the best and hope this helps:)

[TheCheshireCat]

Men don't stay unless they want to, you can't force a guy to be with you even if you get pregnant. That is not how men work, they are only with a girl if they want to be.