Am I just a glorified booty call!?

[juicyvictoriasecret]

Here is the deal:

He is a 32 year old business man and still lives with his parents,

I am a 22 year old Student. We met at my work, I'm a waitress and we have been on and off for 5 months. We are in constant contact throughout the day but he works 2 jobs and doesn't have his own place and neither do I so by the time he is off work and his parents are in bed its 9:30 or later. Ill go over and we will watch a movie and of course, have sex.

For a month I tested him and refused to have sex but I could tell he was getting agitated. Although he still talked to me everyday and told me we were in a relationship.

When I went over on Christmas night, his parents were still up and his mom came over and introduced herself and so did his dad, however my guy didn't introduce me as anything, he just watched as we introduced ourselves.

He never makes plans with me, I didn't spend Christmas with him and his family (which is what most couples do), we never really go out and do anything besides movies, and he talks to me badly.

The last thing he said to me was that we "needed to move on" and now a week later he is texting me again!

Please someone talk some sense into me.

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Thanks guys (and girls) your answers helped me a lot...I can finally MOVE ON and do what I know I have to do. Its nice to have good advice

[RealDeal]

I personally think that he cares about you but not enough to take it further (same level you would like to be). If the man is 32 years old and still living with his parents, it is most likely that he lacks motivation to progress in his life. He could be at a stand still (misery loves company) by you answering his calls and going over to his parents house, you are accepting that this is good enough for you. When it's not. People only treat you the way you let them treat you. So if you feel used, you can change this by moving on from this guy. If you don't, I don't see it getting better or moving forward anytime soon. He'll just move from his parents into your place and live off of you.

[ArtistBboy]

Sounds like you have a douchebag on your hands..

This guy is a glorified booty call, not you.. Here you are wanting a relationship, to meet his family, to do things, etc.. And what's he doing? Working (for himself), calling you names, making you feel unworthy and unvaluable, getting pissy cause you don't put out, etc..

Get rid of the tool and find yourself a real man..Someone who will take you out more than he takes you home.

~ ArtistBBoy

[juicyvictoriasecret]

Agreed! Thank you. I just wanted to make sure I wasn't over reacting, or as he would say "psycho". Much appreciated :)

[ArtistBboy]

My pleasure -> Guys like that are just pissy because they don't put in the effort where it'll most benefit them.. I was one of those guys for a short while and all I can tell you is that I was jaded from all my past failures; so I wanted everything to come "Easy" for me.. I didn't want to bust my ass to get anywhere anymore.. He needs to work on himself and like I said, if you want your sanity, you should move on.

[Anonymous]

Yeah I don't think he's that into you. His parents seem more interested in you then he does

[jarhead]

Let me get this straight ... you actually found a man that is 32 years old and still lives with his parents? I thought they were only a myth. I vote you too watch Failure to Launch together (preferably at his parents house, with his parents watching). LOL!

[juicyvictoriasecret]

LOL trust me. I know it's pathetic...I am just really confused.

[AndreoFigueroa]

this guy is using you, he trying to confine you to a small part of this life. he doesn't introduce you to anyone close to him because then he may have to say what you are to him. from what you say he isn't making plans with you becuase he doesn't want to put in the effort, or invest in what you have together. dump the loser you can have something so much better, and lets face it your at a good place to find someone who will put in the effort for you.

[Anonymous]

Tell him to go jerk off...

[juicyvictoriasecret]

Ill take that as a yes

[Opinion Owner]

lol sorry. yeah it seems like he is playing games with you, maybe taking advantage of the age difference, especially since no one his own age would date a guy still living with his parents...

[juicyvictoriasecret]

That's what I thought...who knows how many girls he's doing this to. He has it made because how can you get serious with someone that lives with his parents and is so busy all the time. Always has time for sex though!