My friend thinks I was talking crap about her?

[Anonymous]

She thinks I was talking about her negatively, when really it was just out of frustration. Not meant to be a full on smack-talk. She was in the bathroom stall, when I was talking to two of my other friends about it. I don't know how she came in without anyone seeing, but she did. Anyways, I was talking about her relationship with her boyfriend and how it's unhealthy that they're always together and that it pisses me when she ditches me for him. It seems to happen a lot. They are together literally 24/7. Everyone I try to make plans with her, she cancels last minute. Sure sometimes it may be it's reasons, but at least 60% of the time, it's because of her boyfriend. I both of them as individuals, but this relationship is unhealthy and ruining our friendship. She will not listen to me and just thinks I was running my mouth about her. For example, I'll be with her and as soon as her boyfriend comes over, she leaves or they just stand there holding each other, faced towards each org, ignores everyone else around them, personally I think it's rude. What should I do?

[Butterfly_kisses09]

Umm you were running your mouth about her. Hello? Talking to your friends about HER relationship with her boyfriend is uncalled for. She has every right to be pissed. You don't have the right to dictate how she spends her tome and who she spends it with. it's her boyfriend, who are you to say her relationship is unhealthy?

You sound like the bitch in this scenerio. It's not f***ing rude for them to hold and face each other ignoring everyone else, you sound jealous of their relationship. Girls like you p*ss me off. It's rude of you to talk about her behind her back. Grow up and get some class. Realize it's her life and she can do whatever she wants, she doesn't need your permission to spend time with her boyfriend.

Sorry but this really strikes a nerve with me, girls always say this sh*t about me and my boyfriend and those girls are always the single drama queens trying to start sh*t. What should you do? Stay out of it and if you're truly her friend, stop talking about her behind her back! Politely tell her you would like to spend more time with her instead of voicing your anger towards her to everyone else. Get some maturity please.

[Asker]

Yeah, you caught me in totally jealous of their relationship. I guess you missed the problem. It's not talking sh*t, if you're saying it's unheathly. Talking sh*t would be "their relationship is so stupid" etc. It's UNHEALTHY to spend every second of your day with your boyfriend. It's called isolation, and nobody will want to be your friend. I feel like 'girls like you' get mad about sh*t like this, because it's the truth and you don't want to hear it. Wake the f*** up.

[Butterfly_kisses09]

Lmao you saying it's "unhealthy" is still talking sh*t. Wake the f*** up. Lol and no that's not true, I'm not bad at all, but that's why you're single. It's not unhealthy, obviously her boyfriend is there for her because her supposed "friends" are talking about her behind her back. She doesn't need "friends" like you. She needs someone to support her and be there for her. But you're just a birch. And FYI, I don't spend every second with my boyfriend so don't act like you know me and my relationship k?

[Butterfly_kisses09]

It's not bad at all*

you're still talking sh*t about her wether you want to admit it or not. You're in the wrong here, if I was your friend, I wouldn't even bother talking to you again. Like I said before, get some class and confront people to their face, not behind their back. That's called being two faced hun. Don't be that.

[Asker]

One I'm not single, I've been with the same guy for two years. Two, he boyfriend is usually a d*** to her, That's why she calls me at two in the morning, waking me up complaining that he cheated on her and that she's 'done' then the next day, she gets back with him. The point? Not heathly to be so dependent on a guy, especially one that cheats etc.

[Butterfly_kisses09]

Yeah I've been with my boyfriend two years too. The point is, it's her life, you can't make decisions for her. You can only be there for her. You may tell her what you think is best but ultimately she'll still do what she wants to do. Wether stay with him or break up with him, if you're a good friend, you'll be there for her either way and not discuss her relationship with other people. That's just rude.

[Anonymous]

Nothing.

That's what girls frequently do, when they're young teens and think they are in love.

If you had a boyfriend, you'd probably be doing exactly the same thing.