Girlfriend chatted shit about me to her fuck buddy before we got together, What to do?

[Anonymous]

Just here for a bit of advice really.

Started seeing this girl, hooked up, things continued and now we are 3 months into a relationship, the other day she gave me her passcode to her phone and said I could look through her phone because she wanted to build trust (I hadn’t shown any signs of distrust she just wanted to go to the next level) whilst she was in the shower.

i found a chat with her old fuck buddy and 2 days after me and her first hooked up she was telling him it was bad, I was small in the downstairs department and no one was better than him (bare in mind this was early stages and after our first drunken hook up) we are now 3 months into the relationship and she’s completely committed to me and has cut off any connection to him.

part of me feels with how she feels about me (said she loves me and it really feels like it) and her actions now she really doesn’t feel the way she was saying to the other guy so I feel she was just saying these things to him because it’s what he wanted to hear but I also don’t know because I find that quite disrespectful even though she didn’t know we would end up together then?

any advice would help!

[LazerBean]

Option one is that she said it because she meant it, option two is that she said it to kiss his ass at your expense, option 3 is that she's a compulsive liar. Long story short, there is no situation or way you can look at what she said that makes her not the bad guy.

[Asker]

I see what you’re saying, I guess do j bring it up with her? Or just leave it be as a “this happened way before we got proper serious” or do I raise it with her?

[LazerBean]

Personally, I believe history matter. And ESPECIALLY very recent history. I wouldn't ignore it, personally.

[MystiKaL]

Look, it must have been very painful to read that. But, this was very early on in your relationship and things have changed. If you was not good enough for her, do you really think she'd be with you 3 months later?

You've got this woman who loves you and wants to be with you. Move past what happened before you two even became serious. It's in the past, let it stay there. Concentrate on your future with her. Because if you keep dwelling on what was said then, you may not have one with her.

[Asker]

I agree her actions I’ve the last 3 months are more important to me than how she acted super early on when we had first hook up, should I raise it with her or just completely leave it?

[MystiKaL]

If I were you, I'd probably leave it now. Only raise it if you really, really cannot bypass this. Otherwise, it may be best to focus on the positives.

[Guy13]

I would let it go and stay in you Present while looking ahead into a future. She chose yiu over Ding-A-Ling King. What’s that tell you…Penis size is only a Social Media fed thing.

[Asker]

Yeah she did choose me, I guess I have to weigh up if it’s worth Raising because her actions over the last 3 months have proven she’s more into me, she even spoke to me about him messaging her and how she shut it down out the blue which I wasn’t expecting

[Guy13]

I’ve got friends that would be… Alright enjoy my sloppy seconds as I here plumbed that line well…but I wanted to try this/that but I didn’t…I’ll tell you if you haven’t already discovered you do this/that then she will…. Let me know if you can get some of my ideas done…I could never get video so add that to the list…. KEEP A BOY approach as another girl is down the road on the next block… Is your friend like that?

[NadiaChepiski]

Just leave the bitch and put her phone out on the table with her fucked up message on display for her.

[NadiaChepiski]

Also, don't ever date a woman who had a fuck buddy, they're trash.

[Asker]

I mean I’ve had a fuck buddy in the past so I don’t view it as a bad thing because it was how I was feeling/viewing my personal life at the time it’s more the disrespect she took at my expense

[NadiaChepiski]

Women are different. Usually the only guys we're gonna have as friends with benefits are guys with big dicks who are manwhores. After fucking them for a few years we can't be loyal to an average man or really love them.

[Kryzo]

Normally, if you were a respecful dude, I would tell you to leave her. But, you're also a piece of shit too though for hooking up with girls casually so I guess that's right about what you deserve. Reap what you sow. All the best.

[ExoticWarrior]

I personally wouldn't continue with her with that level of disrespect