Parents pressuring me to find a girlfriend!

[Anonymous]

Im 19 turn 20 in Sep. I had a girlfriend at the beginning of freshmen year of college and I was in love with her, but she dumped me after being together for two months (that was my longest relationship). I have been single for about 7 months. My parents keep telling me to get a girlfriend (which is not something you can just do). They keep telling me to go her and there. I don't know what to do I do go out and stuff but don't have much luck also I tried on line dating but that hasn't really worked either. I don't know what to do, most people at university are in a relationship and I do go outside my school into the city but its hard to find a girl who does not like a thug or bad boy. Don't know what to do.

[playa_pan]

Actually, pressuring to find a girlfriend will only backfire. The keypoint in a relationship is "attraction." I'm a n00b in relationships & other subjects, however I have read multiple books on building relationships, picking up girls from bars/clubs. & self-improvement books. The biggest main factor is "attraction." Instead of "finding", let girls sense your vibe and get to know you.

Not to brag or anything...I'm in Nanjing at the moment

So yesterday, I was at a coffee shop reading an English book about self-empowerment while sipping on cold beverage and eating a bread with grounded black sesame & walnuts. Two girls walk in & one asked me if the 2 seats were available; I nodded & they dropped their stuff. I continued reading on & 10 min later, they came back after ordering their drinks & cake.. one of them looked at me & the book I was holding. I noticed a dark shadow and looked up; I noticed one girl was peering over what I'm reading. From there on, we spent close to 2 hours chatting and getting to know each other.

Trust & believe.

[art84]

Pressuring you to get a girlfriend is just plain out stupid from your parents. It will only hurt you when your next girlfriend dumps you then your back to being single. Worry about gfs later in life, dude your young enjoy life to the every end. Unless your parents are the type that insist a guy like be dating at an early age just to please them both.

[vmw2008]

Your parents shouldn't be pressuring you, you are only 19! If anything, my parents were encouraging me not to get into a relationship. Telling me to just have fun, explore my options, enjoy my youth, don't get tied down so fast, etc. As cliche as it sounds, relationships creep up on you when you're having too much fun to realize you're single. You have your whole life to be in a relationship, don't waste this time right now stressing about it when you could be having fun.

When you meet someone that you're crazy about and want to date, then go for it. But in the mean time, don't worry about it.

[b61983]

thats stupid! why would they pressure you? they should let do whatever you want. stop litening to them...be yourself...and don't get a gf...just get laid...relationships reuin lives

[Standingpretty]

Give it time, you will find someone, there is no rush. Live for yourself, not your parents. Just ignore them best you can.

[Anonymous]

two months was your longest relationship? and you were in love with her? maybe.. just maybe you come off as way to clingy. unless you've known her at least 6 months before you started dating.

it could also be possible that you're going after the stuck up type of girl (I'm not sure if that was the right phrase I was looking for..) that care more about looks or money or the bad boy type thing whatever. if that's the case then try approaching the more down to earth girls.

[ObscuredBeyond]

Are you trying to please her, or them? I know the frustration of being caught up in conflict.

[Anonymous]

Do what pleases YOU not your parents. It's YOUR life.

[Anonymous]

Parents, how many of us have them, parents, ones we can depend on, lets be parents!