How is it possible a woman has no friends?

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I hve no friends. I might have aspergers. I have nobody no family no body i can text for fun OR to call for help. Hence i was homeless before. I have a job. I have roommates.

ringmaster696 · Accepted Answer

I too have Asperger's, and it just makes life complicated. And nobody knows your struggle just to show up, much less deal with the crap from the people that can't "see" your issues. See how they affect every decision and even word choice. Praying they don't add or subtract or interrupt, because that completely changes what we were trying to say. It's not pretty having to argue with someone because they dropped a word, or added a word just to change a purely innocent picture into something violent and destructive. And almost every single argument I've had, was because I wasn't being heard, while being accused of being the one not listening, would have been avoided, if I had been allowed to finish just like the rest of these "humans" wish and demand and take until the original message is lost. Until all that's left is the pain, the anger, maybe even hatred towards the aggressor. An ex of mine liked to scream at me about how I don't have any friends and I'll be alone the rest of my pathetic life. All because she didn't care about what I, or anyone else, had to say, unless it encouraged her anger and frustration, which was a hard one to guage. I don't know.

Adam_INTJ · Accepted Answer

I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling. I've been there. I may not have aspergers, but I'm still awkward, shy, and distant.

If I might offer some solutions, you could seek out community in a few places:
1. Facebook groups. Maybe you can find a group of other people with aspergers who have the same struggle and want to be friends.
2. Meetup. com. you can find groups of people tgat share your interests. I think that most of them meet up for in-person events. Like painting? Go for it! Love hiking? Meet those people too!
3. Religious groups. Nothing is a better starting point for friendship than shared values whether Christian, Jewish, Muslim, Hindu, or any other, if you are religious and can plug into a church, mosque, temple, etc. of other people of your religion, you'll make good friends.
4. Political activist groups. This is the next best place to find people who share your values. Even better, working on political campaigns together can really develop a sense of comeraderie, and if you want, friendship.

Best of luck to you!

spuitkaas · Accepted Answer

I went through a time in my life as a teenager where I had no friends. Again after I broke up with my ex boyfriend. It happens, but it can get better. I would say, go to a therapist and get your mind in order and maybe get the diagnosis for ASD. Making friends is easier when your mind is in a good place.
Try joing a club, a sport or something else where you do something you enjoy together with others. I have always found new friends through my sports.
Maybe also try to connect with your roommates. I saw that you didn't have that much in common but don't write them off that fast. You might have at least something in common with one of them and maybe build from there.
Good luck to you ❤️

lovedejj_xo · Accepted Answer

There’s apps.
I personally have my besties, regular friends I may talk to occasionally, and work friends and at times I still feel very alone (depression). I would talk to someone instead of self diagnosing yourself, I would also start looking into apps! Even the “dating” app bumble you literally can be someone’s friend this girl I know did that with another girl.

CasuallySamsonite · Answer

Been there, I've struggled with depression and some other stuff. Been homeless off and on (even while working and when I was a full time student) I've had people in my life that were there and I was close to but not in the /friend/ category. I don't think your gender is specific to the problem, it just happens to some people, it's like there is a wall up that keeps us from getting close to others... crossing from co-worker to friend or room-mate to friend or acquaintance to friend just doesn't seem to happen with anyone. It's hard. To get by in this world it takes a village and to go it alone is damn hard.

pm me with a discord username or whatever platform you use (I'm not on social medias) if you want, I can't promise much but I'll talk to anybody. :-)

nonratracereality · Answer

This goes for all human beings. They all can have the same or similar characteristics. Your ability to understand reality in human life will show you who is worth not worth as much borderline or not worth anything. We want people who are not only beneficial to themselves but to others as well. Your intelligence, responsibility and maturity will decide who is in your life and who isn't. When everything goes accordingly then you'll see not too many people around that's normal and not to use the rhetoric that because you dont have friends then there must be something wrong with you wrong misconception why can't it be what's right with you. Choice or circumstances will prevail when having or not having friends.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Lol don't be dumb , you don't have any sort of disorder you are an introvert that's it.

Sometimes it might feel something while looking at others you lack something in life but also you have plenty of peace of mind and less drama.

I think you are just upset as of now seeing others looking happy on the outside

Know this it's all a facade every one is for themselves in reality but you can also wish good for others as well.

All you need to do is break your shyness and get a boyfriend.

at least for a while you know all your gloominess will disappear if you find a genuine guy.

Opposite sex people understand you better or at least are kinder to each other

But you have to open up.

I donot know what part of the world you are from but I can only offer you to be your friend but I am very boring 😂

scentoflavender · Answer

Well i would recommend seeking the help to properly diagnose any mental condition. After that, youve got to just be yourself. Eventually you'll meet people who value you for who you are.

collie22 · Answer

you can start with Jesus i know he wants to be your friend

Sleeptalk · Answer

I only have one good best friend I talk to everyday and a few people I kinda talk to. I'm introverted and I'm really cautious about who I bring into my life. Maybe too judgmental, but I think it's important to have that judgment to bring the best people into your lives. Better that than have many half-assed friends.

hahahmm · Answer

Do something that brings you into contact with lots of people and the odds of you making a good friend go up. You'll make fake friends too, but I hear those are good if you just want fun. I never needed to have a bunch of friends for fun tho.

Probably avoid seeming needy/desperate/in need of free mental therapy from random strangers. That pushes people away.

elizamichale1 · Answer

Awww i m so sorry to know that sweetheart  Why can't ur workmates be ur friends

anon171999 · Answer

I'm not sure why you don't have friends. My partner is my only friend because I don't put in effort to socialize with people when I'm in public. I also don't do activities involving a lot of socializing with new people.

haooy · Answer

You have home and job now that's so great.
Please take care of yourself and you will find/get friends and family in the process.
Mostly people don't have friends when they are too scared to make friends but that's just how I am I don't know how you feel.

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

I don't have any either, 1 online one. I find it really hard to make/keep friendships

exitseven · Answer

I do not have many friends either. I used to but I got too busy with my life and really lost track of everyone. It is hard to make friends when you get older.

Guardian45 · Answer

Sounds to me like you're neurodiverse. Nothing wrong with that. We're just different. Get a diagnosis to be sure. Otherwise, you ain't alone. Lots of people out there like us, especially since the pandemic. If you want friends, you're going to need to invest time and effort. Join in things. Be a social butterfly!

Daniela1982 · Answer

How can you have no family? Is that figuratively or actually? Seems like everyone can have at least one meaningful relationship even if they were an orphan.

Dear_Panda · Answer

Please see a therapist and get it diagnosed if you have Asperger's. Asperger's means who are highly functional, may be you could have autism. Can't comment it's a medical issue and requires a specialist

TheBootyChest · Answer

I will be your friend. What do you want to talk about? I'm here to listen.

MCheetah · Answer

I'll be your friend! I'm not a simp; just offering a chance for you here. PM me.

rebeliouse · Answer

well u have people to chat to on here so follow me and ill respond

Neilbud · Answer

I don't have many friends either. But a few good friends is better than a ton of bad ones.  Also, some people have friends because they need them, others because they want them. Be the latter.

TallAnon · Answer

It happens, especially during covid. One step at a time, just try to have some idle chat and see where it goes.

TexasRed95 · Answer

Of course. I am a shut in and have basically no friends as a guy. Why would it be any different for women?

Nerdvana · Answer

I don't know, but I am in a similar situation. For me I think, it's because I work a lot.

Twalli · Answer

You can have friends and have Asperger's. I have friends and I've been diagnosed

why_would_you_ask · Answer

Girl, it's okay. I'm here for you. And also if you don't have ways to connect with people just go online, that's what I do.

Nahid1707 · Answer

Yea, finding good people as adults in our lives is important

JohnK123 · Answer

How is it possible a man could have no friends hmmmmmmmmmmm

OddBeMe · Answer

“Friends” is a subjective descriptor. I have acquaintances who think we’re friends.

emperor90 · Answer

If they constantly bully others thats the same for guys

Subarugirl · Answer

I don't have any friends either.

Anonymous · Answer

I once knew I girl like that. She had a horrible personality and was diagnosed borderline. However, I don't know you personally so not sure.

Bobby4488 · Answer

I can be your friend, you can talk to me everyday, dm me

Excel47 · Answer

You can makes friends on Facebook and other social media platforms

WowwGirl · Answer

I'm sorry for that I'll be your friend

jasco · Answer

We can be friends if you like.

dvc0006 · Answer

I have aspergers , you can message me.

InferiorElegy · Answer

She chooses not to have any friends.

Pharez · Answer

It's possible because it applies to the men too

Somegirl678 · Answer

ill be your friend

Abdulwahh · Answer

Maybe thats your life

EnglishEuropean · Answer

I hear ya.

patrick677 · Answer

Yoooo !

Darksign · Answer

I'll be your friend

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