Would this be considered emotional abuse?

[Anonymous]

If you’re afraid to disagree with anything they say because they’ll call you dumb, stupid or make you feel like you should have just kept your opinion or thoughts to yourself. Or they yell and scream as a way to prove that they’re right and you’re wrong or they feel like you Don’t love them and are against them if you disagree with anything they say or do. They turn it into a big fight/argument. They tell you to be quiet and let them talk because they feel you Don’t get it and they have to “break it down” to you.

[Danny_dan92]

Honestly? It really depends on what exactly it is you did that resulted in them saying that.


I would say it would definitely be so if they used harsher words like “bitch” but in this context it could be that he was just giving you tough love and criticism

[TheLittleInnocent]

"Tough love" is just an excuse to be toxic.

[Asker]

One time, after spending a day with another couple, who happened to be my boyfriends brother and his girl, the next morning while we were showering together he brought up the smallest incident that no one else wouldn’t have even noticed and I didn’t notice it until he brought it up. He mentioned a specific incident during that night, at one point while we were back at his brothers and his girls house. Sitting around, talking, listening to music. See, My boyfriend enjoys making music. He’s an artist. At one point his brother gave an opinion on his music and I suppose my boyfriend disagreed. I didn’t get involved, I didn’t state my opinion I let them have their disagreement. My

[Asker]

boyfriend and I ended up staying the night. All of us ended up falling asleep on the couch. His brother and his girlfriend were on one side and my boyfriend and I were in the other. In the shower my boyfriend pointed out that when we woke up his brothers foot was touching mines and mentioned how I did nothing when I saw that his foot was touching mines. Apparently I kept my foot there and didn’t move it. Mind you I was still half sleep when I awoke, I wasn’t paying attention to anything like that but it

[Asker]

could have very well happened even so I didn’t see the big deal. The only reason he even mentioned the foot thing is because when we got in the shower he questioned me on if I felt his brother had his best interest at heart and he asked that because of how his brother criticized his music the night prior and I told him that I felt he did and that he wasn’t criticizing his music in a bad way but was more so giving him tips. He turned into a totally different person, mind you we’re still in the shower. He started to shove me and Called me a b**** that didn’t care about him fr because if I did I would be on his side and I wouldn’t have let his brother get away with his foot touching mines. He started to say he was wasting his time with me and didn’t need to be with a girl who doesn’t have his back. Of course he apologized like he always does but I’m not sure just how genuine those apologies are anymore considering it keeps happening.

So I don't know if that gives you a different opinion or not.

[Asker]

Another time we were watching a tv series on Netflix. There was a scene where a woman in the series started to quote marriage vows and seeing as if you watch movies, tv shows or have been to a wedding you know them and I pretty much just quoted the vows with her while still watching the series. It was kind of like one of those things where you have seen a movie or tv show so many times you know exactly what they’re gonna say and you repeat it. Nothing more than that. He stops, looks at me and says “You didn’t know she was gonna say that.” And all I said was that I did in fact know she would because who doesn’t know marriage vows? He then once again denies that I didn’t know she would say that and in other words saying I don’t know what is said in marriage vows. I didn’t want to go back and forth because I know how he gets so I just got silent and continued to watch the tv series. He gets up, throws something at the tv, breaks it and yells “I hate when you lie about dumb sh**. Now look what you made me do. You knew you weren’t gonna say what she said but you lied as if you knew she was gonna say it anyway.” Like it was pointless for him to make a big deal out of nothing but he did. He continued with saying “You don’t even want to get married or have kids. You don’t want to accomplish sh** with me so how would you know the marriage vows?” Which is true but only because, though I care about him, with him being this way very often I don’t see myself having kids with him or being married until he changes in that aspect but even so that had nothing to do with me actually knowing what the marriage vows are and being able to repeat it when I hear it on a fictional tv series. It’s as if he wants me to be dumb and know less than him.

[TheLittleInnocent]

Wait OP are you still with him?

[Asker]

@TheLittleInnocent yes but If I explain why I know it would be hard to understand. I feel stuck with him despite everything.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

@Asker Girl you need to LEAVE.

[TheLittleInnocent]

Oh do explain, I think I could try to understand as I've been in a similar relationship before.

[TheLittleInnocent]

Very much abusive! That isn't okay.

[Anonymous]

Yes. that is emotional abuse.

[Opinion Owner]

And verbal abuse