Girls, do you feel uncomfortable and would you let it put distance with a guy friend if gossip starts that you might be dating?

[Anonymous]

Yes I feel uncomfortable and would put distance between us

No I don’t feel uncomfortable

Yes I feel uncomfortable but wouldn’t let it put distance between us

[kyleelyn199723]

This has happened before to me and it’s because I am 100% sure he was openly his mouth to others, so yes now that I have been through it I would probably put distance

[kyleelyn199723]

Opening*

[Asker]

In what way was he opening his mouth?

[kyleelyn199723]

We did have sex once and I am sure he told others on top of the fact that I did think he liked me in the end, so I think he was openly telling people we were dating with no title

[Asker]

Oh this is different. I meant purely platonic friendships.

[kyleelyn199723]

I would still even then. Some guys get the wrong idea that them hanging out is a step closer to them two dating. Not saying that this is your situation, but I just typically don’t make male friendships happen anymore to save the drama and rumors

[Asker]

Well you just have to be upfront at the start I guess. We’ve had the conversation and I’m glad we did. But I would be genuinely sad if rumours put distance between us.

[kyleelyn199723]

I was pretty much upfront lol I rejected sex from him pretty much every time after the first because I only saw him as a friend

[Asker]

Why did you have sex with him in the first place?

[kyleelyn199723]

Because back then I had a problem with not being able to say no to guys. I was pretty young.

[Asker]

Oh right. So you didn’t actually want to have sex with him?

[Asker]

And he asked you for sex and you said yes?

[kyleelyn199723]

When he asked to have sex I wasn’t entirely for it, but I tried it, wasn’t satisfied in the end and was actually grossed out I decided to have sec with him in the first place

[kyleelyn199723]

Sex*

[Asker]

Were you a virgin or something? Or very inexperienced sexually?

[kyleelyn199723]

@asker I was not a virgin , and was not inexperienced sexually but I was very naive.

[Anonymous]

I'd feel uncomfortable if I didn't like him but I wouldn't put distance between us. I guess if I did like him I'd still be uncomfortable because I wouldn't be sure if he liked me back lol

[Asker]

Oh right lol. I think it’s quite sad to let gossip ruin a good friendship though really. It’s no one else’s business what the nature of your friendship or relationship is.

[Opinion Owner]

That's for darn sure. Is this what happened to you?

[Asker]

No but I’m worried it might happen due to rife gossip just because we enjoy each other’s company as friends and like to do things 1 on 1 away from the circle. I just find it really sad to be honest.

[Opinion Owner]

I'd say the only way things would be ruined is if she didn't actually like you...

[Asker]

We’re friends. We both only see each other as friends.

[Opinion Owner]

So what are you worried about?

[Asker]

That she might find out about the gossip and distance herself from me.

[Opinion Owner]

I think you should talk to her about it. Like, "hey there's a rumor going around, I hope it doesn't separate us as friends" shed feel more comfortable... but what if she actually liked you😩

[Asker]

She doesn’t. I don’t want more than friendship with her as I worry that would ruin our friendship.

[Opinion Owner]

Well let her know just that.

[Asker]

I did like her before and we talked about it.

[Opinion Owner]

O yea? What she say about it that she doesn't like you back?

[Opinion Owner]

How can you be sure

[Asker]

Because she said she just wants to be friends so doesn’t want to date. So I lost interest in her that way after a while.

[Opinion Owner]

O I c... well I think you should talk to her before she finds out

[Asker]

About the gossip?

[Opinion Owner]

Yupp

[linka_pat307]

We have to talk about it one day or?