It depends on you in my opinion.
Imagine two guys. Both ask their female friends out.
Guy one is a flirt. He talks to girls, flirts. He has female friends aplenty.
He develops a crush on one. He playfully flirts with her and confesses his love and desire for her. But it's all fun and the girl feels no pressure. She says no. He laughs and smiles and tells her she's beautiful anyways and asks her if her other friend is single and he's tryna get a 3some going.
She giggles and y'all remain friends it's all good.
Now guy 2 is probably you. Living in fear, wishing and hoping she likes you back so you can guarantee a yes from you asking her out.
When you ask, you're a different person from the friend she had. you're suddenly ashamed, nervous, timid. When she says no, she can see the dark cloud of sadness and depression that descends upon you. She knows you two can't remain friends because you aren't capable of it.
Now which guy are you? It's clear which one can easily ask out his female friends, even date them, even have fuck buddies. And which one is always alone and lonely and desperate and pathetic.
You dont want to be guy number 2.
I avoid being friends with women, there really isn't a point of that plus it complicates things.
If I like a woman then I pursue her with the intention of becoming her boyfriend/future husband, that's the only reason I even talk to women.
Seriously though, avoid women as much as you can, only approach them for serious relationships!
I've never had that happen actually...
I have had the opposite happen: I asked out a close guy friend and he friendzoned me.
Yes, it was awkward. VERY.
He acted as if nothing happened (or tried to) rather than distanced himself from me. But he made sure not to discuss his dating life with me anymore for obvious reasons.
Eventually he started talking to me less and less, or "forgetting" to check in on me as he called it (he ghosted me). Which was probably for the best- things weren't the same after I told him that. I guess he didn't want to end the friendship without looking like a jerk, so he just slowly talked and spent less time with me.
Morale of that story- guys can do it to females as well, so I get it. It sucks telling someone you like them, especially a close friend, only for them to push you out of their lives.
Some people believe because they make the best of friends that it’ll be the same in a relationship. Sometimes the two aren’t compatible and May not mesh will as romantic partners. I no longer have “guy friends” because they all weren’t actual friends just guys sticking around in hopes of having an opportunity.
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They keep their guy friends around so they get an ego boost for their low self esteem. Any guy that stays in the friend zone is waiting for a weak point in a womans emotions so that they'll have a shot eventually. She doesn't have to give anything in return for the guys in the friendzone. She's taking advantage of their THIRST
Yeah, and I don’t fully distance myself from them. I still continue being their friend, however, I stop myself from saying or doing certain things. Unless they want space, then yeah, I’ll distance myself.
They disappear from alone because their plan didn't work out. Every guy with two brain cells would know if I consider him as potential partner he will get proper signs soon enough, otherwise it's just a slimy pseudo friendship show from his side.
Yes that is why I no longer have guy friends :). They have provided me nothing but problems when it comes to them not understanding I do not want anything further than a friendship
As a woman. I let the guy go to his next adventures. I don’t get into awkward situations.
not right to keep man as close friends. No such thing.
That definitely can get awkward, the social dynamic has completely changed and the risk of losing a friend is there if said gal or guy chooses to pursue the romance.
It only gets weird when you are using him for emotional support when dating other dudes.
You didn't want him then that is off the table.
It generally does, yes
I just wanted to see the votes LOL
As long as he’s cool about it, nothing changes
No. It's amazing.
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