Is it okay to tolerate bad filthy words?

[Charulatha]

i had an online frined who was very good but then suddenly he got upset with me becuase i didn't levae my house when he told me to leave. now he told if i want a chance i should come and kneel and beg him? i didn't go and then he spoke in very filthy words to me. what should i do? i did scold him back but i feel very guilty. was what i did correct? should i tolerate those filthy words and remain begging him for another chance?

[Jaumet]

What you tolerate is what you basically allow to continue. This basically teaches others how to treat you. So, if you are offended by their use of filthy words, you need to let them know and do not stoop to their level by using them yourself. Since, that would be hypocritical. Oh, never beg... like ever!

[jshm2]

Meh. He was no friend.

You should report and block him too.

[PrettyPriya]

I find his behaviour completely inappropriate. He, nor anyone else, should tell you when to leave or what to do. To then use derogatory language towards you is a dealbreaker and would end it if it were me.

[Charulatha]

but is it fine to leave?
I've been speaking to him for 3 months now morning to mid night. im used to speak to him. its painful to leave. neverthelss he spoke in very vulgar language and no ne has ever spoke to me that way. pls advice me how to deal with this

[PrettyPriya]

@Charulatha

Of course it is fine to leave. Being with him for 3 months doesn't mean you are his property. It is a red flag if he is treaty you poorly. You have a couple of options.

One, you can sit him down and tell him that it is not okay the way he is speaking to you and that it HAS to change immediately. The second option is to just say it is over. Take some time and think about what is best for you.

[Charulatha]

i did tell him more than 100 times give me some other option, but i feel that his intention is to get me to his house and satisfy him which i feel is not right. he is telling unless i beg no chance for me. already 2 people came and begged him itseems.

[PrettyPriya]

@Charulatha

That is not right. You are not there to satisfy him when convenient for him. My advice... leave him.

[Charulatha]

thank you sooo much for the advice. i will move on , but if he does it to someone else , can't we stop him from doing it to anyone?

[PrettyPriya]

@Charulatha

You are very welcome. You unfortunately can't stop him from doing it to others. That is the sad reality. People like that rarely change. Hopefully, any girl that gets involved will realize quick that he is toxic.

[PrettyPriya]

Thank you for MHO ❤️

[Charulatha]

noooo issuee

[Charulatha]

im really sorry i end up troubling you
but that guy messaged again
i had told its over and and all done.
but he is telling me he won't talk till i beg. i reallly dont want to beg at all. but i miss him a lot

[Charulatha]

how should i control my emotions

[PrettyPriya]

You are not bothering me at all. You need to take your mind off him by staying busy. Lean on family and friends to help.

Plan some fun activities with close friends to stay occupied. Read or take up hobbies. Basically, stay strong and stay busy.

[Charulatha]

thats the problem
family is not at all supportive to me, friends are all busy with their work shedules. im trapped to the house. i know after your advice that he is not good and im scared to go to him too. but my emotions always overpower me and i end up feelong should i go?

[PrettyPriya]

Nope, stay strong. Find some things to keep busy. Ask and answer questions here! Be active and get in discussions that don’t have to do with your ex.

Exercise and meditation also help. All about keeping busy as I said.

[Charulatha]

so your final advice is not to go to him?

[Charulatha]

does that mean he will never ever talk to me?
that feeling is so hurtful to be honest

[PrettyPriya]

I would not go back to him. He doesn’t treat you well and is disrespectful. He isn’t going to change. Not sure why you are so concerned about his feelings when he clearly isn’t about yours.

[Charulatha]

thats a problem with me. i care a lot. he clearly told me im a time pass for him. he told be extreme vulgar words.

[Charulatha]

im very disturbed at this scenario.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Heck no. Come and beg him on your knees? I'd have laughed even while I was blocking him from contacting me ever again.

[TwinkleLily5]

Have some self worth, worthy people don’t beg.

[Anonymous]

Only if its what you're into, otherwise screw him.