Is it unladylike to use curse words?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Science geek here! The core of the language is changing and we are able to swear digitally today without seeing each other. Swearing is bad professionally when you are in front of family members especially outside of your own, and using this to appropriately speak to one another. The more you curse, the more likely you are not going to receive any emotional support from people. There is actually a communication barrier with people who don't curse, and those who do curse. Humans are not the only people who swear, but animals swear as well. Swearing also affects your health in several ways including provoking stress. A person who is fluent in English speaking very intelligently along with the social group that speak different languages are more likely to ignore you if you swear at them. There are social groups that will even stop talking to you after hearing you swear.

Richard Stephens works out of Keele University in the U. K. He’s a behavioral psychologist, who is interested in why we do things that we’ve been told are bad for us. For years, the medical profession has been saying that swearing is incredibly bad for you if you’re in pain. It’s what’s called a “catastrophizing response,” focusing on the negative thing that’s happened. His take on this was, if it’s so maladaptive, why do we keep doing it?

He initially had 67 volunteers, although he’s replicated this multiple times. He stuck their hands in ice water and randomized whether or not they were using a swear word or a neutral word and compared how long they could keep their hands in ice water. On average, when they were swearing they could keep their hands in the iced water for half as long again as when they were using a neutral word. This shows that the results are anything but maladaptive. Swearing really does allow you to withstand pain for longer.

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Máiiréad · Accepted Answer

I feel like calling is "unladylike" makes it seem like it is only okay if men do it. But you see, I feel like it should be called "unclassy" or "classless". Anybody can do it, not everybody does. I do it, especially when I am very upset. Am I proud of it? No. But I do. I acknowledge the fact that it isn't appropriate... but my god it feels relieving to just let out a huge "FUCK!!!" when you are in your car and you had a rough day at work. It is far better than going home and drinking my sorrows away. It is better than being violent. If I need to swear a little here and there in order to let out some steam... I'm going to do it.

Mr___A · Accepted Answer

Yes absolutely.
As well as it is ungentlelike to use curse words for a gentleman.

I find swearing childish and immature.
It's a verbal violence that is uncivilized and useless, as to me.
In addition, it became some symbol of strength, which is nonsense, because it shows a Big lack of self control. Then it shows a weakness more than a strength.
Being able to be civilized and to solve problems without any violence is a strength.
It's just m'y way of thinking 😉

Burgerboy21 · Accepted Answer

Personally, I just hate the term "ladylike." It seems overly sexist to me, especially in the contexts it's often used. What the hell is "ladylike" behavior anyway. Is a lady not a lady suddenly for acting differently? Why don't I ever hear "manlike?"

CarbonFlashTV · Answer

I guess if you define "ladylike" it's extremely feminine and polite with manners and all that, so swearing wouldn't fit, but if you like swearing just do it. You don't have to be ladylike unless you WANT to be. I'm personally the complete opposite, or close to that. I swear all the time and it's fun.

Big_Tasty · Answer

Ladylike, as in the female counterpart of a gentleman. Yes, very unladylike. Same goes for men. Using curse words is just very undiplomatic, and a huge turn off for me. Especially on a first date, or if I don't know them. It definitely gives people room to judge negatively

Violet54 · Answer

I don’t personally like using curse words. Idiot, cow, etc. is okay, in my opinion. But b*tch and words like that aren’t ladylike. It’s not sexy, It’s not cool even when is a guy using them.

Anonymous · Answer

Personally I don’t find swearing an attractive trait. I will say though that when I’m mad or if I get a fight, I’ll let a swear word slip. Other than that I don’t think hearing people swear in nearly every sentence they say is fine. I find it hard to get along with people who do constantly swear.

LittleSally · Answer

Yes, as well as ungentlemanly - so I thoroughly dislike anyone cursing and it's certainly never a sign of well mannered person.

DanielOfTheNorth · Answer

Yes. Also just plain unprofessional. Men shouldn't swear either. It makes anyone appear more rude and less intelligent

RolandCuthbert · Answer

I really hope more people respond. I am willing to bet most here think it is unladylike. The suspense is terrible!

MasterDaddyUK · Answer

cursewords DO have a time and a place though. in the height of passion, it would be a bit of a killer for your girlfriend to say "Oh. please do stick your ding-a-ling hard into my Foo-foo!"

blueskies1 · Answer

The societal standard of women not swearing should be abolished entirely. A women can swear as much as she likes and that in itself shouldn't invalidate their womanhood.

ItsMeYPJ · Answer

Defining a lady is very simplistic put; well mannered.

Using swear words doesn't fit along with a lady nor a gentleman. We all can understand why you would use it, but it is incorrect behaviour for those type of persons.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, technically it is. However, we don't really live in the old times. Or well, we shouldn't, at least. If you want to swear, you should be able to, but, just know when it would be OK to. If I were to date a girl who swears, I would hope she'd know to never do it around my parents or my extended family. Everywhere else, it's fine

abc3643 · Answer

Yes... unless in the bedroom. For instance, watch Westworld.  Look at/listen to Elsie and Charlotte Hale then compare them to Dolores. The answer to your question will then become obvious.

inlovewithyoue · Answer

yes. I don't swear. it's to too vulgar to use those sexual vulgar words. That makes the woman look too cheap and trashy

mono_gram · Answer

Instead of saying it's unladylike, it's just not the best of manners in general; you might come off as rude or inappropriate. All people curse, regardless of gender.

cherryphi82 · Answer

It is but there comes a point at which whether something is ladylike or not takes second place.

TuMeManques · Answer

I'd just say it shows a lack of etiquette for others. Gender really has nothing to do with it.

bubble_tea · Answer

Yes, being a lady or a gentleman means to me that they have impeccable manners and follow social etiquette. Therefore using curse words is unladylike, but also something a gentleman would never do.

Trollfather · Answer

From a woman it just sounds like she's some sort of stupid hick. It's just a complete turn off.

TwinklingNeurons · Answer

It is trashy, in my opinion. I like it when people can control their language and have a little class.

JellyDonutguy96 · Answer

yes in my opinion it betrays the sense of elegance and class

Shyguy2001 · Answer

No but it does show that you don't have class if you do it often if you curse once in awhile sure it happens but if you do it often it's just crass.

Tiffers2154 · Answer

Judy Dench said something like never underestimate the power of a well placed expletive.

Pamina · Answer

I don't give a fuck what's ladylike and what isn't.

Oasha · Answer

Yes, but who cares? I'd rather date a girl who is unladylike than stuck up.

Billlewis · Answer

As I said on another thread, I think it's incredibly sexy when a woman curses, uses foul language, etc.

snowangle · Answer

I read a post recently that said "if you curse, be clever. And know your audience." And I think that's good advice for everyone.

Jackieboi · Answer

Its not, to a certain frequency, then it is. Because it is considered traditionally a male trait, so at some point the result of "too hardcore" and "too often" becomes too much

Naruto_Uzumaki · Answer

I think it depends on the situation. Of course I use curse words here and there but it depends on the people I'm around with

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

When I catch myself using curse words, I criticize myself for being unladylike. Unfortunately, I still keep doing it.

MikkiM · Answer

I think cursing is not smart at all. Why curse if you can blessed. Its funny but i think we could be better than cursing others

Seeyouaround · Answer

Yes it most certainly is but I don't give a flying fuck. I'll curse whenever the bloody hell I want to (which is actually rare to be honest ).

cassandraa · Answer

Yeah, but it's one of those things people don't care much about as long as you don't swear every other sentence.

Ledoyen · Answer

I use them all the time, I don't think it's something that belongs only to men, we also should express ourselves as we like without being judged.

Shoenron · Answer

It's just rude, so by extension yes, it's not ladylike.

biancahemmings · Answer

Nah believe me I swear like a truck driver and I don't think it's bad

Logorithim · Answer

I don't think so. That doesn't determine whether she is feminine, IMHO.

Salmon4056 · Answer

I'm pretty sure yeah. but some people accidentally and habitually say it. I don't say them, cause I despise it

ScaryCool · Answer

I mean everything in moderation. I don't care for people constantly doing it, no.

witherwing · Answer

Obviously, but in this day and age ladylike is quite an old-fashioned way to behave.

Mexicoman101 · Answer

Yes but you can't be acting like a lady all the time.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I much rather date a girl who doesn't swear like a trooper.

Justacatlady · Answer

All depends on what you consider a "lady" but I don't think it does.

OldSchool_Metalhead · Answer

if it is unlady like to use curse words, then holy shit I'm definitely unlady like XD

fallen_wings · Answer

Society says yes, but you know what? f... uck it. f... uck society. do whatever the f... uck u want

PrincessPie · Answer

Yes if excessive and every word, every now and then is fine.

Anonymous · Answer

Yup. Cursing is ill-mannered for any gender. Though a lot of people don’t care...  Grandparents and parents mostly prefer the curse filter around their kids.

maliyahlovee · Answer

no female gives a flying fuck if a guy doesn’t like it when we curse

thiswasamistake · Answer

Haven't you seen that one Natalie Portman skit (actually there's 2 now) where she curses like crazy? It's very ladylike to curse.

MrKinktastic · Answer

Unladylike yes but thats more to do with refinement than femininity.

MayBlythe · Answer

Fuck off Swear words are just expressive words people are to scared to use

Alistayr · Answer

Yes, and ungentlemanly too, but it happens, and they're just words, after all.

Daechir · Answer

Unladylike, sure. In the same way it would be ungentlemanly. It's not about gender. It's about being polite and well mannered.

MrMilti · Answer

Its just rude to curse and not an attractive trait, on both men and women.

monkeynutts · Answer

No I love it, often it's always surprisingly funny when they do. They generally don't have mouths a filthy as me.

Anon_af · Answer

No I don’t think it’s unladylike, but there is a time and a place for it, which applies to guys too

sickandtired12 · Answer

Fuck! Absolutely nothing wrong it. Life would boring without cuss words. I even fart in public...

cloudyday-j · Answer

For me, it depends on the situation. Screaming and cursing out in public -no

HereToFlirt · Answer

A female can swear as just as much as a male so ladies out there don't be afraid to swear its natural

Anonymous · Answer

Kinda, that's why I never said a swear word in my life.

Java_God · Answer

I think it is unladylike to use them all the time but once in a while no not at all

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