Have your parents ever been jealous of you or have you ever been jealous of your children?

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I recall my mom admitting that she was jealous  of my (pointless) degree and she even refused to let my sis go to college as she legit said “I wouldn’t dare let another child of mine become a step closer to success in comparison to me.” Just sad since parents are supposed to want to better for their kids. Anyways, her parents were quite verbally and physically abusive to her in the 70s/80s but she gave them a second chance when I was born  and they’ve been quite loving with me. You can tell it sickens her to see it. This weekend my grandparents agreed woth me on something and my mom yelled “I’m so sick of y'all taking her side! You never have mine. It irks me so much.” I playfully replied “Mommy darling, I can’t help it if I was right... AGAIN.” But she got seriously mad and walked out the room. I think its just the Leo in her wanting to be in the Limelight. But its also clear that she never truly forgave her parents for what they did in the past.  I tell her all the time that I wouldn't have ever allowed them back in my life if i was her. But because i’m not her, i can truly only judge them for their character towards me. Plus it feels nice to have at least someone have my back from time to time because sometimes she’ll join forces with my grandma or sister to me tagteam me in arguments. So im gonna take support whenever I can get it lol. #FeelFreeToList #MothersDay

Pyrofox · Accepted Answer

I really get the sense of jealousy over the girl I'm falling in love with from my parents there's all these comments about "she's to young for you this that or another thing." Its particularly my mom who throws these outlandish claims and then will fall back to as her evidence of why said girl I'm in love with being viewed that way is cause my mom doesn't ACTUALLY KNOW HER.

Which admittedly kinda made me self combust and admittedly blow up on her that she can make such statements without even knowing the girl. And I'm not really surprised by the fact my mom and dad both don't really like her XD. Its kinda the reason I picked her is that she isn't the stereotypical girlfriend.

I personally despise making conflict but to make such shallow comments without actually knowing a person. Particularly someone I actually treasure. I admit just erks me the wrong way and no I will never regret exploding on my mother cause she is admittedly a bit gaslightish same with my father. Which is kinda making me want to learn computer programing and just get out of being under their wings. As I really don't feel healthy having to live with them. Its mentally exaughsting when they often nit pick my ideas and what I want to do.

It just feels like they are making really outdated ideas about my choice in women and just choices in general.

As to what my parents signs are: they are like virgo and gemini... Which unfortunately doesn't have a hope in hell in understanding me. LOL

I'm an Aquarius the true rebel sign so ironically the more my parents say I shouldn't do something it just makes me wanna do it more XD.

ShadezMcgee · Accepted Answer

I don't think my parents are jealous of me. I have done things they never would do and they have supported and shared my experiences and achievements when they came.

Now I don't know anything about your family, Dizzy, so take what I say here with a grain of salt. I don't agree with your mother being jealous and mad about your success, even if what you say is true about her not wanting your sister to go to college because it would make her better than her in her eyes. I can understand her resentment and trauma to a degree with her parents being verbally and physically abusive to her growing up and that can take a toll on a kid because they are supposed to have good and secure relationships with their primary caregivers (her parents). When that isn't there, insecurity, esteem, and worth is something they struggle with. If she went through that as a kid and she sees you getting the treatment she should have gotten from her own parents, it will fester with hurt, anger and resentment. Probably, "Why are you giving her what you didn't give me?"

So that's where I see her words of them always taking your side come into play. I don't believe her star sign has anything to do with it. It is you received the love from them that she never got amd she hasn't let go of that or overcome that trauma. Do I agree with what she is doing? Absolutely not. Can I empathize with her? Yes.

It is good to have people on your side when it matters, but in life people will team up against you too, family or not. Just my two cents.

LovingLoverReturned · Accepted Answer

That's sad. Actually I tend to feel to hide my relationships from parents because I don't want them to get jealous.

They had problems with each other... so I'll avoid gloating (it's not so much boasting but really just expressing happiness ) if I have a successful relationship and marriage.

My parents haven't been jealous of me in my knowledge... but it's something I always think about that I don't want to happen..

I view jealousy as painful for the person...

alice55 · Accepted Answer

my mother was jealous of me cause she thought my father gave me too much attention and didn't gave her enough.
Things is she's extremely nagging so my father sometime got fed up with it but didn't sit anything cause if he did it would only get worse. He always said she's annoying.
She also got jealous of the fact I had more money than her and spend lots of skincare while she felt ugly.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

It took me a long time to accept my father is jealous of me.

I don't have anxiety like he does and I don't care much what people think about me. He thinks these qualities are bad to have and will lead to failure. But I have accomplished more by my age than he did when he was older than me.

He has sabotaged my life multiple times to try to prove to me that I'm immature and don't know anything about the "real world" and that I still need his idiology in my life but I always get back on my feet and I think that pisses him off.

My mother I think just doesn't understand my approach at things. I don't think she's jealous, I think she's just worried, but she has much more faith in me than my dad seems to.

I love them both because even if they don't realise it. The love they have always had for me made me into a strong person. They weren't able to give my brother or me what they wanted, but I'll try to build it for myself one day.

TrueConfection · Answer

Yes, I think so. I learned to hide everything good or bad. Hiding bad was just etiquette. Hiding good was for survival because one or both of my parents were always right there to make me pay for any fortunes that came my way whether money, education, job promo, anything. I tell them nothing.

razelove · Answer

Very briefly, though mostly just my dad, when I was about 20 I got a job that paid out 6 figures, at the time his job was treating him like crap, and they were recovering from a hurricane still. So I got it, and just didn't visit for a while. How've you been girl, I haven't talked to you in like, what, a year or something?

melanieeeB · Answer

Oh that sounds pretty sad tho I feel like a mom should be there to support you.

My mom like admired me being able to get a better education then her and she said that she wished, her father would have allowed her to go to university but he didn't, still she is glad that I get that opportunity and like at least one of us

silkjames · Answer

I would actually be disappointed in the first time of my life if my own parents where jealous of me or my daughter but there not I love them both and my parents love us both they raised me up very really well I'm far from perfect my bad and good equal each other out lol but yeah my parents are cool 😎🥰!

mstbooblover · Answer

Not the slightest idea, but I know for sure that my parents remained mentally total strangers to me and that they never ever gave a damn about me. I guess jealousy is not something to be proud of, but at least it's a form of attention, the latter I never got from them, set aside some functional and mostly bad one. May seem rude to state that, but it's the truth.

Pink2000 · Answer

My friends think my mom is jealous of me. I don’t believe so at all…. My mom had a child at 19. I have no children thank the lord and she had to put her life on hold for a long time. She’s just now getting her MBA and she’s 55 which is better than most people… I do think sometimes she resents me…

lovedejj_xo · Answer

My mom and I are closer now but I had to move out and away for that to happen oh and get therapy. But my mom projected her insecurities on me causing me to basically starve myself when younger and have body image issues. My mom has admitted slightly to being jealous but at this point she is going through with a second body surgery and still manages to say her body looks better than mine. I’m content with myself now but I realized it’s her own issues

Anpu23 · Answer

No I don't think so, Im happy for my children's success and my mother simply is too accomplished in her intrests to compete with me. My brother, on the other hand...

exitseven · Answer

I don't imagine my parents were ever jealous of me. I had a tough time growing up. I am not jealous of my kids. I just made sure thay had everything they needed to succeed.

Uptowngirl88 · Answer

I'm confused by this post. Are you describing someone one or is this from someone else. I initially thought the very first paragraph was you describing your mother until I got to paragraph 2.

Agape93 · Answer

Doubt it, I'm too much of an evil harlot for their sensibilities lol

beebella · Answer

I don't think my mom has ever been jealous of me as a person, but I know she doesn't like when it seems like I'm being treated better than my brother.

Blackcupcake · Answer

I don’t think so… and I don’t have kids so no to that hahaha

Akpos · Answer

No, my parents are not supposed to be jealous of me, and it is not right for someone's parents to be jealous of him or her

Anonymous · Answer

I have the reverse, I'm jealous of my parents because they're filthy rich to an amount I will never get. They always expect me to do better than them but I'm not smart enough for 2 phds

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Yes. VERY. That's why she has always tried her hardest to sabotage me and hold me back.

Likes2drive · Answer

No that’s never happened, if anything they would be proud and I’m proud of my kids

TallAnon · Answer

Not really, my parents were/are proud more than anything.

Hulk30 · Answer

my mother might possibly be jealous of me because she's very competitive by nature

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