Do kids ruin your life? Feel free to explain. ?

[Anonymous]

I just want to know you guy’s opinion.

Yes they do

No they don’t

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Not necessarily.

That said, there's a lot of work, cost, effort, pain, longterm consequences, and wider impacts of birthing a child most people don't consider.

Having a child is the single heaviest carbon impact a person can have in their lifetime. Through no fault of the child - but living on this Earth bears a carbon footprint no matter what you do if you're born.

Having a child costed $250k several years ago on average for the first 18-20 years of life. Inflation hitting your grocery bill? Imagine it hitting for things like kids' clothes, school supplies, and activities.

Having a child can also be dangerous for the birthgiver. Childbirth has many permanent and deadly side-effects. Did you know it is not uncommon for the vaginal opening to tear so much that it reaches the anus? Perineal tearing is a nightmare.

Will these things automatically make someone hate their child? Or make the child ruin lives? Not necessarily (but in several cases, absolutely yes).

What might ruin it is parenting wrong, or your kid just legit being a terrible person - children grow up to be their own people. And that's not always what the parents want or are ready for. And that ruins lives quickly - not just of the parents, but of the child who could not have prevented their own birth.

Not taking into account what children are and are not ruins lives.

[Apple1996]

They can If you don't want them. For me I always wanted kids so they just made my life better and gave me something to live for. Without my kids I would have committed suicide by now just cause I felt before them I had nothing to live for. They basically saved me.

[Asker]

I’m glad your kids helped you to a better state !

[ChrisMaster69]

No they don’t, they add to it.

however parents can ruin a kids life very easily.

i appreciate not everyone wants kids but they do add so much more

a huge fucking challenge and a constant learning thing as everyone is unique and does shit you never expect lol

[Confidentandchill]

I didn’t answer yes or no because they do a little of both. They change your life for ever and during that time they both enrich it but also wear it down.

[Anonymous]

Having kids is the most amazing thing that can happen to a human being. It’s tiring? Yes, of course it is. They require a lot of attention, love, care, effort, etc. But they give you more happiness than any other thing you can imagine. And the type of happiness they bring is just not comparable with nothing else. And the love you’ll feel for them is the most intense, beautiful and pure love you can ever feel.
But a lot of people want to live selfish and effortless lives, for them yes, kids ruin their lives.

[Graci_e]

I love kids, they’re the cutest and I can’t wait to be a mum. They’re so sweet, innocent and joyful. But at times they definitely require a lot of patience haha.

[exitseven]

They are a huge responsibility and cost boatloads of cash but they do not ruin your life.

[Iron_Man]

No why would they everybody has responsibilities and you know when kids come into this world it’s a big responsibility

[Juxtapose]

In my opinion they do but this is coming from a child free mindset.

[Fuentes]

They can, if your a bad unresponseible and selfish person

[Twalli]

They're work, and your life won't' be what it was, but it isn't ruined. Your life is just different than it was before the kids.

[Waldoe]

it takes more time for a Man to "bond" with a new-born but it will happen if he is kept Involved and not ignored and pushed aside...

[Flower7]

Yes if they are had with the wrong person.

[Asker]

Agreed !

[RuthlessAggression]

If you have them at the "wrong age", yes

[lofii]

Anyone who thinks that is a terrible person

[Anonymous]

No just expensive and a lot of responsibility

[Agape93]

Yeap

[moonpie89]

They can yes