Why even ask if you're overweight if you don't like the answer?

[Anonymous]

This is a scenario of asking a friend, a relative or your partner if you're a bit overweight.

Ideal, expected answer: No, you're not. You look perfect.

The person gets happy and continues eating junk food, not exercising and not improving.

Realistic answer: A bit. You might want to work on doing more exercise and eating more vegetables.

The person is upset you said the truth and answered their question, even though the reply makes sense.

So why bother asking if you won't like it if they don't give the answer you expected?

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+1 y

By advicing them to do exercise and eat healthy foods, you're telling me how they would look better. It would be for their own good vs lying to them that they look great and letting them continue with their unhealthy lifestyle.

[DryGermanGuy]

That’s an U. S.-American style of communication problem. Here in Germany people are direct (the famous „efficiency“) and will tell you how they see it. Sometimes even without you asking them in the first place. 😂

[Guy13]

Yes, a bit... You do not need to fix the problem, however, someone acknowledging the issue is paramount.

[Missgingles]

They're idiots. If you ask a question you have to be open to an answer you dont agree with.

[Apologies456]

I don’t know to be honest. I feel like people can look into the mirror and tell that they are overweight and they’re upset because of it and want to lash out at someone else for it

[Asker]

yes it's very obvious when someone is overweight and most of the times it's due to an unhealthy lifestyle and lack of physical activities...
In other words, that can be worked out but some people are just lazy.

[Apologies456]

Shhhh! Don’t tell them this though because they’ll get mad and start an argument

[BarryLiverstone]

Sometimes people are feeling down so they ask an answer hoping to be told they are ok.

[Asker]

True and I'm very bad when it comes to sugarcoating esp if it involves someone's health. If they don't like the answer then my reply would be like ''then don't ask''.

[BarryLiverstone]

I’ve had to learn at times it’s best not to directly answer a question; especially if I care for someone. It’s less about giving an honest answer and more about treating them with care