Do you think it would be ruder to ask an overweight person how much they weigh compared to asking a person who is not overweight?

[Anonymous]

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+1 y

My question is not about whether it is rude to ask a person about their weight

I am asking do you think it would be ruder or basically worse to ask an overweight person compared to a skinny person

I think yes because an overweight person would more likely be insecure about their weight.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Usually, yes. I don't know too many overweight people that don't get a little touchy about their weight.

As someone that went from overweight to fit, I hate being asked my weight regardless. Why? I'm very insecure about my weight and appearance so it's a touchy subject for me.
But there's a difference between being asked that question when I was fat versus now.

-Fat me being asked my weight: I assume they think I need to lose weight or I'm gross.

-Fit me being asked my weight: I'm still in insecure, but people usually ask my weight because I appear to weigh less than I actually do due to muscle and my physique so in a way, it is complimentary.

[Espresso-Grande]

Yes. If you just came out with it as a random question. Because most overweight people are insecure about their weight, and would overthink the question. They'd take it too personal, and probably assume you're being rude and insulting. I think they'd take offense at the question

[Rocco7070]

I think maybe. You need to be real, if all you can do is hurt peoples feelings then you need to be asking yourself some personal questions. With questions like this , one day you'll not have to ask anyone if its rude, some female wilo knock you out, your really very insecure and not cool either. Im not overweight, but if you ever did something that trashy around me, to anyone, Id really embarras you. But, wouldn't have to, your not worth me breaking your jaw. Your trash.

[Adam1978]

I can see more reasons to ask a fat person then a thin. And it's still rude if you don't have a good reason like you have to hold their weight or use equipment that should hold their weight. Thin people you know will be manageable but not always the big.

[potatoiswhoiam]

No, it's equally rude in both cases. Unless you're sure someone is confident with themselves, otherwise asking an insecure person (even if they look like a model) what their weight is, can feel really uncomfortable and could make them feel even more insecure.

[I-C3_ME]

I'd honestly try to avoid talking about all together, it's right up there with "how old are u?" And "how tall are u?". People feel attacked most of the time when u ask these questions straight up so go for more subtle ways like "hey, is it me or did u lose some weight?" It's a more positive question and people will think wel of u for asking the question but in a complimentive way

[yamajazaki]

So many people look older than they are so I'd rather ask about age 😅

[I-C3_ME]

True, i look 24 most of the time so i can relate

[Chris_u006]

Neither is worse than the other, it is equally as awful to ask.
Overweight people tend to have more poise than others, in very broad generality. Maybe there is a connection to this question. But there are ofcourse some differences to both directions.

[Lizzzzz288283]

It’s rude to ask anyone about their weight. It’s a personal thing that can hold a lot of self image issues and such

[wankiam]

depends... i mean it does suggest you are possibly making their weight an issue in the same way it would if you asked a super skinny person whilst someone of average weight is also less likely to see it as an issue themselves if asked

[wankiam]

@update the question was clear as was my answer to it except you changed the term ''a person who is not overweight'' to a skinny person. my answer still stands

[SapphireStarre]

It depends on the situation. If the person is generally self conscious about their body and weight, then you shouldn't ask, no matter their size. If a person is confident and it has a reason behind it, then you can ask. But not everyone is free about their weight, big or small.

[SphynxUK]

It’s rude regardless. How is it anyones business apart from their own?

[Miley19new]

No but they are likely to be offended more because they would think that you are asking to judge them

[Outofthegrey]

Not unless you said it with a timbre that suggests awe.

[jahaims]

I don't find it to be rude either way. Just a weird question to ask unless it is relevant to the conversation.

[skeetskeetskeet]

When people... usually fats tell me how bad smoking is i just say yeah so is being grotesquely over weight... you can get heart attacks.. your husband or wife won't want to fuck you anymore

[Ripper_E]

No. No different than how it's not rude to ask a woman how much she weighs.

[Anonymous]

Depends in what context its asked tbh, but you should never pry into anything someone is sensitive about.

[Anonymous]

Why would you even need to know somebody's weight?
I have never asked someone that question.

[Wise4myage]

I think its rude to ever ask that question unless a girl wants your opinion.

[TheHillsRAlive]

Maybe entertaining but not rude per se

[douride2]

in my opinion one would be the same as the other.

[Iron_Man]

Only if they are your friend

[andy530]

Nope it’s rude either way

[beefy40]

No I don't think it's rude at all.