How do I start to like being around people again?

[Anonymous]

Past few years, I've had pretty negative experiences with people my age. Include bullying, people taking advantage of me, friends turning on me, people spreading things i told only them, etc. I don't want to go through life hating everyone and wanting to be alone. What way could you think of to help this?

[lightbulb27]

I'd reada book on boundaries, trauma and heal your inner wounds. meditate, look to a greater source for love and inspiration (Christ) and see the world through new eyes. You may have trust issues, if so, that's rooted in childhood as well then repeated in your later years now. so you need to address that else people walk over you. This is a fallen world... do I need to explain that? you need to see the humanity (flaws, behaviors, emotions) in people, learn to trust your gut, manage people and relationships, filter what you say, maintain boundaries, eliminate trouble people, and speak with power and confidence. All of that will get you to a better place.

[petitedollbabee]

I went through that sort of stuff, had a shit time in my teens. But after spending a year and a half alone and staying away from people, it helped me to recover from all that I went through. I learnt to stop having expectations from people and to start enjoying my own company. That way if someone screws me over again, I won’t be hurt much and can manage just fine without them. Your own company is the most important to be happy with, as we all go through periods in life where we are alone.

[kylee2437]

Setting proper boundaries is a big one for this. Just know when to walk away if you see behaviors that you do not like.

[es20490446e]

You mean leave your phone.