How does one start to like life again?

[Anonymous]

last 3 years i have been depressed about my dads death.1
he died in 2016 i never went to seem him before he died i still think about that & him a lot

my mom is not in great health

i have not worked for 4 months as i quit my last job i just sit home at my computer. i toolka job offer from walmart still waiting to hear back from them.

i dont have the energy to get my drivers permit i never got it or go to the dentist to clean my teeth,

i dont have friends as i never wanted them thought i had a friend at my last job my never manager.

but i found out she was giving me bad references. & when i would text her hi after i quit she never cared to get back to me.

& my mom was just rude to me sometimes i want my dead father to come & take me with him.

[AaronKrieger]

Here's the thing, it's so easy to get caught up in our heads and forget that you can be content in life. That life isn't so bad. It's not hard at all to get depressed, so I get it.

I changed my life and improved my mental state by doing this after graduating HS:
- Reflected on what habits in my life are good/bad and acted on it

- Created a routine of waking up early every morning through fixing my sleep schedule (went through middle/high school heavily sleep deprived)

- Forced brushing my teeth consistently twice a day a habit

- I focus 90% of my time and energy into my career, which is linked to my goal.

- Became picky on who I associate myself with, as I want positive influences.

- Stopped unnecessarily focusing on negative bullshit, since it's a waste of energy. It's fine to feel negative, but it can't get in the way of you doing shit.

- Change the expectations I set for myself and overall how I see myself. I now see myself as a productive person, so I don't let anything get in the way of that.

- Accept that chasing the idea to become happy is pointless, so the objective should be to be content.

- Understanding that I need to be uncomfortable in order to appreciate the comfort. I have to do things that challenge me or else being too comfortable will cause me to get depressed.

Overall, you already know what habits and things you need to fix, but also I think you need a sense of purpose. That's something for you to figure out on your own. Fortunately I found mine already.

[Asker]

what is your sense of purpose?

[AaronKrieger]

A summarized version of my purpose as of the moment at the age of 20:
- Putting my all into my goals and work in my life. It cannot be 50%, but 100%, as I am building my career. It's the only way I will stand out.

- To stay at a healthy state of mind through life's obstacles and effectively cope. Gradually improve myself as well along the way.

[Asker]

i see

[AaronKrieger]

Basically, it's to have pride in myself. Just realized I could've summarized it better like that, lmao.

[jennifer_bloom]

I recommend joining a church to meet people, doing volunteer work to get references and connections and taking your drivers test. Tell them your an agnostic but your curious about religious ideas.

[Asker]

thank you