How to become Happy again? if nothing seems to be getting better in your life?

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It just seems my World has come crashing down on me for the past year and a half now , Every day has been nothing but stress and negative shit occurring to me , Yes there is still some positive don’t get
Me wrong , but mainly negative. I can’t even land a friggin Job to keep my roof over my head? , I never experienced anything like this in my lifetime. Is the World coming To an end? What am I supposed
To do? where do I turn? , I have applied to over 200 jobs that I am well qualified for, but I am not landing shit , I hear other people going through the same shit that I am? Are we not supposed to work anymore? I am so lost on what to do , I pray every day for a miracle,, I have always been a hard worker , reliable and dependable , always did what I had to do to support myself and my family , Now I am feeling like I am A Worthless POS Loser that has no direction in life anymore. I been so stressed and depressed , not knowing what to do anymore.

Dongie · Accepted Answer

Fin, don't let it beat you. I know exactly what you are talking about. I asked a girl friend if I died in January of 22 and went to hell or the twilight zone. I got covid first, February lost 5 fillings plus ha wisdom tooth coming in sideways behind my gum. I also had 2 cavities. March I lost my job which I'd been told would be 3 months. My "loving" nephew told me the last day, to which he hadn't worked me for past two weeks, that I had no job to come back to. He cut my hours two days after I bought a new f-150 for 50k down to 3 or r and some weeks maybe 12 to 15 hours a week. So I spent my savings on truck and home insurance. The insurance on my house went up 30%. I had to take my truck back in April with 6k on it and lost $10,500 dollars on it. The car they put me in at Ford had the engine go out in 4 days shy of 4 months. I had my ac in home repaired the day before after it had gone out 5 days after fixing the second burst pipe in my yard, about 400 bills each time. So I caught a ride to my new job at Whataburger, the only job I was offered in the 3 months after losing my real job that earned, before my truck, about 750 to 800 a week where I earned a whopping 1100 every 4 weeks. The next morning I hadn't a ride so I walked home 4 miles and of course it was drizzling rain. I got stopped for a train and while standing there in my Whataburger shirt and hat, as the rain picked up, cars lined up and I realized it was my 60th birthday. I swear I started laughing and tapped a jig for all those mf's watching me. I then rode a bike after my ride I acquired quit whataburger to a burger joint called Randy's that's a pinch over a mile away. The engine was on backorder and took 4 months and 10 days to get fixed. I missed a few days being sick riding in the rain and every time I'd just about be well it would rain again. I had to put up with 15 and 16 year olds whom all but one were assholes. $9 bones an hour. Well missing another day with a fever the lady owner asked when they were going to fix my car. It was December 19th. I told her it was ready a week and a half ago. A good thing is I bought the warranty for the 2012 Lincoln for 1500 dollars so it had a 100 dollar deductible they said it needed a new battery quoted at 160 after tax I guess made it 250 plus towing which I had in my insurance still got charged for them bringing it from where the insurance sent it costing a total of almost 700 dollars. Well Marcy said my name, "why didn't you say something? Where's the car?" She said call you right back. About 3 minutes she called and said," go get your car. See you tomorrow". I'd been there 2 months one day and had already borrowed 400 dollars making my total $1,260 that I owed them. I had taken in a renter, the nephew of a friend who left town on a job. Well he stole my new push mower, self propelled, 2 weedeaters, an air compressor and a lot of tools after not paying rent for a couple months having lost his job. Later learned for stealing. Then on Friday April 14th I got chewed out for being "rude" to a young punk on the phone who, just like 85% of callers say," uhh, can I make a order"? I said I guess you can. He got riled and told me, a burger guy, that I should have said," why yes sir you may". He sounded around 30. He asked to speak to the manager so I threw the phone on the counter and collared for the manager as I was walking to their office. No, no not when Marcy is there. So we passed each other in the hall the manager left the office and I waited to get fired. Her husband whom, i thought didn't like me after he chewed me out one night in front of all those kids. Well he actually took up for me after Marcy returned, so mad she was shaking with tears in her eyes as she yelled at me for near five minutes. Wasn't fired but told not to come in mad anymore. I'd been mad for a year. Bare with me. Here's the deal. The cook, Chris had just had a baby a couple months earlier and his wife was afraid to be in the new house alone. I and Darrin, Marcys husband were the only ones allowed to clean the grill. See this is a special burger joint that opened in 1959. We had customers that drove from Dallas and Texarkana to eat here. So I said I would come back at 7pm and close for him. He bought me a six pack of Modelo Negra. So I got off at 3:45 and went to get the oil changed for the first on that engine. That's when I got hit by that car walking across Auto Express parking lot. An employee going about his age, 20 mph around the building and I jumped back and he turned right into me. Knocked 10 or 12 feet back through the air. Well a way I went back at 7, still physically shaking after 3 hours and this smarty pants kept saying she would bust me up. I took it as kidding. She walked by and I was swinging this towel and swung it toward her. She stopped and it bumped her butt lightly. She turned said same thing. Next morning I got fired for sexual harassment. Her mom came a bitching. I'd just got that one buck raise. I heard it left a well. Not from me. You have to snap the thing. I didn't mean for it to reach her. Marcy had no choice. She was crying again. Said she wanted to like me the day before but I was angry. I said to her that's how I deal with what's in here. My head. Well I still owe them and I heard they've sold the place for 1.5 m and I will pay them. And it's not changed yet, over a year later. My A/C and heater went out. My drain is screwed in my yard. I pit in over 65 apps and got 3 intervues. Bike got stolen off side porch but my pastor just bought a new one not two weeks ago. My feet and angles are swollen up after a steroid shot in knee and I'm trying to save my sister from stage 4 breast 'C' that's been bleeding. Other than that your typical 2.5 years.

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

dedicate your time to make others happy...

volunteer at animal shelters, do serious work the community, coach, tutor...

if you learn to be happy by making others happy... then it will become a life changing experience

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Accepted Answer

See about changing the layout of your resume, what makes it pretty makes it unreadable to the average AI scan, which is what most companies use these days.

I’d also stop watching the news for a while, take some time to focus on yourself, and while it sounds like bullshit, changing the negative tones in your language to positive can make a world of difference in how you feel (ie instead of saying “I’m never going to find a job” say “Maybe that job wasn’t for me, the next one will be better” and eventually it will be). With what free time you have, try to find things you enjoy to spend it, a hobby or spending time with loved ones or something. Daily mantras can help, meditation can help. And remember that focusing on negativity, while very easy to do so, is not a sign of an advanced mind. Our animalistic instincts want us to focus on the negative because it perceives that negativity as an active threat against our lives somehow, remember that you’re not going to die from all of this. Finding a new job is hard, yes, but it won’t kill you not to find work. You can apply for unemployment or you can find a temporary job in an entry-level position in a different industry, food service and retail are always hiring. Hope may seem impossible but it’s not.

And if none of that works, see a psychiatrist and get medicated. You’re depressed.

LostandFound__x · Accepted Answer

Sometimes things get really hard. And like you said it feels like your world comes crashing down. I think the best thing to do is to try and find joy within and from the things that you enjoy. For example for me it was reading and going to the gym. Just keep going and don’t give up and have faith. Then things will get better. I know it sounds cliche but I’ve realised this is the rule to life. Some days are good and some days are bad.

Caroline91 · Answer

I hear you…it’s especially hard as a man to be in the position you are in. Sometimes all you can do is to keep putting one foot in front of the other and not give up. Get some help to explore new job options and training. There are some fields that always have jobs, such as allied health, for instance. The answers are there and, statistically, every “no” gets you closer to a “yes”. Stay positive, stay hopeful, stay strong because you CAN do it.

CAROSSA · Answer

If you don't have a job, go find a suitable job. When you don't get any response, you should think carefully about the reason. What aspect of you doesn't meet the other party's requirements? What are you lacking? Maybe your previous job was very good, so you look down on those dirty or hard jobs. You can try to lower your requirements and start from the bottom. As long as you work hard enough, you will definitely succeed.

LiZiqiLiZiqi · Answer

Do something that makes you happy instead of doing things that you don’t like and that add to your stress.

Staximus · Answer

Did you go on indeed? When I need a job real quick I apply for jobs nobody wants. Night shifts are a good start, nobody wants to work those

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