What can I do to become happy with myself?

[Anonymous]

i don’t like who i am anymore. i’m so unhappy, i’m becoming mean and I don't know who i am anymore. i can’t talk on the phone with my boyfriend, i give the most horrific attitude towards him and i hate it. i think i give attitude towards him bc i’m unhappy plus we don’t do anything together anymore. we don’t go out, we don’t go out on dates, NOTHING. all we do is hangout at his house and we don’t do anything. we barely talk, nothing. i hate that we don’t do anything. he hangs out with his friends more than he does with me. i would call him to ask if he wants to hangout and he’ll tell me in a little because he is with his friends. hey he’ll call me when he wants to, to hangout. i don’t know what to do. so i think my issue is that i stay at home all the time and i wait for him to call to see if he wants to hangout so i barely go out. i barely see my friends, i barely do anything. i don’t work, im in school full time so im at home all week. i know that’s my fault and i wish things were different. we both are unhappy. i have four best friends, three of them don’t live in the same town as me, the one friend that is, is single and always puts me in the most uncomfortable situations. she asked me to go to the beach with five other guys and i’m like uhhh no that’s not okay. and she got upset that i didn’t go. anyway, I don't know what to do. i know i can stop complaining and what not, but I don't know just the fact that we don’t do anything makes me not want to even talk to him. i don’t want to break up with him bc i know the potential we have with each other is great. i know we can do so much more bc we have done it. i don’t have money for a therapist so i can’t see one, but i do want to. anyway, i don’t know what to do and i’m so unhappy and sad about it.

[Lycirian]

In my eyes, I seeing YOU!

See men always find a way to be happy. We don't connect everything, which makes us happy with the girl.

You got to start to do that to. Don't put everything on him. Do stuff what makes you happy without him and if you don't what makes happy right now, then try different things.

You can go out with your friend and other five guys. That doesn't matter. People in relationships got to understand that, you evolve in every relationship you got. Either it is a business relationship, love, hobbys whatever. So if you really wanna find out that he is the one for or not, you got to do what do. I understand your point but sitting there and waiting for his ass or he got time, is the wrong way trust me.

I'am married for eight years now and I realy know what I'am talking about.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you need a change.

Decide what you want to do and then start doing it.

The issue is you two never created a joint vision by which the relationship will be aimed or expressed

Seeing as you're probably not going to do that, I'd say change you attitude and then start thinking about the thinks you'd like to do. Then start doing them.

[Anonymous]

you NEED to tell your boyfriend you are starting to feel unhappy because of these issues (don't go out, don't do things together, no dates, limited talking, he hangs out with friends more than you). like, girl... your relationship is not doing so hot right now. no wonder you are so unhappy!

[Asker]

i’ve told him, he doesn’t want to listen. i feel like we haven’t been in a relationship in a while. i spoke to him on the phone and i told him just that and he said “okay we haven’t been in a relationship than” then hangs up. i called him back and he says “listen i don’t want to fight with you and that’s all we ever do now a days. if breaking up will not make us fight then be it”

[Opinion Owner]

it sounds like to me he already gave up on the relationship. he knows what he's doing and he's acting single... this is sad, he can't even confront you in a mature way... he's not listening to your needs. you cannot be in a relationship where you're neglected like this

[In_Trance]

Figure out what you don't like and change it