hey, my fiancé and i have been together for 10 years and lately it’s been a bumpy road and we both can’t seem to shake it off. let me first start by saying i have always been insecure in myself before entering this relationship. when we first started dating, he was all about social media. following bikini girls, liking their pictures, DMing a few of them complimenting their looks and saving pictures. he recently got blocked from instagram so he no longer has it. if i’m not mistaken, it’s been since October. he didn’t bother trying to retrieve it back so he left it be and has told me that he feels relieved that he doesn’t have one anymore and that he realizes how toxic social media actually is. so let me say that when i found out that he was liking bikini pictures, DMing them and saving pictures i begged him to stop and he never listen to me. i cried myself to sleep a lot of them times and wondered where i went wrong that he had to do this. i stayed hoping that one day he would stop. he has, but i can’t help but still be sad and feel so insecure about it. he says he stopped doing it, but he has said that before and i still caught him doing it. we have cried and talked about this situation since he got blocked off so many times and he has apologized hundreds of times, but i’m still insecure about it. i hate how my body looks because of the every picture he has liked and saved because i look nothing like it. i don’t know what to do to help my insecurities become secure. i can’t ask him for help because i won’t believe him. when we do talk on the phone he will call me gorgeous and princess, but i don’t believe it. i don’t feel comfortable in who i am and i hate it. we don’t go out on dates or go out on adventures anymore because i drive the both of us crazy. i don’t know what to do to become happy and secure within myself.
How can I stop being so insecure? it’s ruining my meant health?
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I don't think you are insecure about it, I think more you have resentment towards him not listening you and him liking pictures of other girls.
I think you are just making a big deal of it with him liking pictures of other girls on social media. I could understand if he cheated on you, but he hasn't done any of that with other women.
You just need move on from it, he has stop doing it. You are creating unnecessary drama out of social media picture.
Just believe in yourself, you are worthy of his love. You just don't believe in yourself.
even if he has saved a bunch of them on his phone?
Ok, Its sounds like he has and addiction problem, So sound likes he is not doing it to hurt you, he has addiction. He will probably need to get help.
But i don't think he is doing this to hurt you.
But don't twist this into something like he will cheat on you or something. It won't come to that. Its just an addiction.
well he said he has stopped. i don’t believe him because he has said this before and when i looked through his phone he still did it.
I just said, its an addiction problem. People who are addicted to something, will lie cause its hard for them to give it up. My lied to my mum for many years, saying i gave up smoking, cause she kept moaning me about it, So I just lied to make her happy. He is lying to make you happy, not to hurt you.
The only to create that trust back with him, is he has show you his phone etc over a period of time to gain your trust back, but not forever. He might not like it, but he has created this mess.
😔 that makes me sad. for so many years i felt like i was never good enough for him and how he wanted to be with those girls. and he would say a lot of hurtful words to me when he was drunk and angry.
oh he won’t show me his phone. i have asked him and he would say yes but won’t show me anything
Don't be sad about it, deal with it. And he been drunk is not acceptable behaviour, that's more concerning than, pictures of naked women.
You need stop allowing his bad behaviour.
Watch this video, its very good.
www.youtube.com/watch?v=bCdFzjEuQrY
If his behaviour keeps making you feel worthless, and he never changes, you need to leave asap. Because you self worth goes down the pan, than you end up feeling trapped in the relationship, and could end up in domestic abuse situation.
i’ve tried, it doesn’t work. i’ve tried not speaking to him, i’ve tried telling him to slow down, i’ve tried telling him that it’s killing him, i’ve tried asking him if he would date me if i were an alcoholic. nothing works. it’s a mess.
Then leave him, that's your only solution, stop moaning about it, do something about it, and leave.
also watch the video pls.
thank you for the video. i do deserve better. even though he “doesn’t like pictures anymore or save them” all he does is hangout with his friends and gets drunk instead of being with me. we don’t go out on dates or on any adventures because he spends all his money on beer and all his time with his friends.
Good for you, leave him he is not good for you. another video, which you do. to Rebuild your life/
www.youtube.com/watch?v=cblfsOIakhk&t=724s
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