That all makes sense. I'm not sure what to say because you didn't ask a question, almost sounds like you are on the fence... it's over, and you "wasted" time, but not moved on. The healing doesn't start until you are gone and disconnected and suffer the loss.
You are sad you spent 8 years with him? I can relate, I wasted more than that on a friendzone... all the money, time, priority... total waste. You can learn from it, take the lessons and value and move on. You need to flip it to see the positive... you didn't waste anymore seconds of life. I moved on and I'm married now and living life fully. I had no idea what I was missing. There's reasons we make decisions we do, generally because of what we believe about ourselves from childhood training. Find those reasons and love yourself first.
In your case, it sounds like you had to endure years of emotional abuse around "security", which would be very hurtful to relationship. He wasn't the wiser, nor did he care to stop seeing it hurt you. He had to grow up and learn to be a man from the addicted boy he was. Yes, social media can be very damaging, anything can be. You got through that "war"... and the emotional city was in ruins. Makes sense, no you aren't being overly sensitive... you're being normal person, and to your values. Without trust and security, there's nothing.
What you do is your choice. There's lots of videos you can watch, and books, but it's ultimately... your decision which way to move, and that's what's tough about being an adult. You are still young, you have time
Whatever way you go, you deserve to be treated with love and respect.
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Group or marriage counseling?
I am very sorry for all that you went through.
I sadly had the same kind of guy. I accidently figured out that he was sexting with other girls, and it's possible that he went out with a few of them, but I don't know that for sure. I confronted him about it, and he sorta admitted to it but he said he was looking for another girl so that we could do a 3-way together. We lived together for two years before I had to call it off and walk away.
i'm so sorry that happened to you. but i'm glad you found your worth and respect yourself now that you called it off. now you have a way better chance at being happy. you were emotionally neglected and technically cheated on. but now that you've been through that, i'm sure you won't let it happen again and know the warning signs/red flags. he doesn't seem like a good person in general.
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So be happy that you didn't spend other 8 with him
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