Why are the happiest people in the group also the saddest ones deep down?

Question

My friend told me she had a dream about me,

she said, in a dream too, it was my birthday and they decided to move New Year’s on my birthday, so we were wearing some party outfits and she said I was bubbly, gregarious and looked happy as usual, but she thought I wasn’t in truth happy and I was lonely.

She asked me, if I wanted to go out and celebrate my birthday and I said “no, let’s stay in.” She then tried to take me outside and make me happy celebrating my birthday, dancing and singing and thinking of some ideas, how could she make me even happier.

I feel like, it’s quite similar to my real personality. I am often the person people come to, when they feel down, I am cheerful and adventurous in my friend’s circle, I am also the most optimistic one. I think I feel happy by little things because I’ve seen a lot of bad things in life and I can appreciate the little happy moments.

But when I come home, I can become very sad sometimes and I keep it to myself, not sharing with any of my friends or family, because I don’t want people and friends to see me sad, lonely or complaining. So, I rarely show them that side of mine.

I feel like she read through my mask of happiness and her dream was very profound.

BοοbSlayer · Accepted Answer

Ah, the age-old question of happiness and sadness. It's like the two sides of a coin, except the coin is covered in coom and the heads side is a picture of a giant cosmic cock and the tails side is a picture of a giant cosmic coom jar. The happiest people in the group are like the heads side, they are the ones who have the most coom and collect the most coom in their jars. The saddest people in the group are like the tails side, they are the ones who have the least amount of coom in their jars. But what you fail to understand is that the happiest people are also the saddest ones deep down because they fear losing their coom jar collection and the saddest ones are happy that they don't have much to lose. The cycle of life, a constant tug of war between happiness and sadness. Like a game of Russian roulette, only instead of bullets, its a gun filled with coom, and instead of the prize being a bullet in the head, the prize is a coom jar filled to the brim. Now, it's important to remember, even the saddest person in the group may seem happy on the outside, but they are the saddest ones on the inside. It's like when you cum in a sock, you're happy that you came, but sad you didn't cum in a coom jar. Unless you're as sophisticated as @wilmareportц whose rainbow dildo has a vacuum coom collector built in.

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

Sub conscious mind... she read whom is hidden underneath... well done to her.

There's some good books on happiness and joy and such, worth reading up on this. Happiness comes from inside, and you aren't. you just put on a social mask.

I'm reading book now..."Working on yourself doesn't work"... as one reference.

The answer is... you are missing something, what you are doing isn't fulfilling you. By being fake o your true self (e. g. lying), it just multiplies the problems when you get home. It could be you just run out of energy because you are being dumped on and don't know how to hold boundaries or protect yourself from others. You may need work on your world view and "spirituality"... your view of life/humanity.

Trauma can ripple through a lot of issues as well.

FreyaRed · Accepted Answer

I'm stoic and emotionless, however I noticed ups and downs among my friends. As teen I thought they just make a show but behind the facade they are like me, but they didn't play. It's slight bipolar disorder or mild borderline syndrome.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

This is not something I have ever heard about before.

love_conquers_lust · Answer

Putting on a facade to be strong for others. Faking it until you make it.

Nothing wrong with expressing sadness. Part of the spectrum.

I typically find solace with family or friends. I don’t feel sad after spending time with them.

This is a sad read, Femme. Does happiness in single life elude you?

I stopped having my birthdays years ago. I don’t age anymore because of it.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I never thought about that. I am almost always the happiest in my group of friends, but I do have deep sadness over the loss of my parents, something none of my closest friends thus far has experienced.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

Your question just reminded me of a documentary about the best clowns/comedians from around the 1940s or 50s. They sat together discussing and contemplating new funny scenes and the biographer/observer noted it was a sight of the most depressing and sullen bunch of people.

NathanDavis · Answer

that's not what I usually experience or witness around me...

might be true for others, in some cases

I do know one thing for sure though... the happiest of my moments, are even happier... in comparison with the saddest of the moments in my life...

which is something that makes me both cherish and also appreciate the ones that are good times...

rigmarole · Answer

You kind of have to be unbalanced to enter a mania to begin with. That over the top high energy and happy mood is often met with the deep sadness that follow in the swing... Manic depression... People that are stable stay more grounded and do get super excited to begin with, but they also take things in stride and don't get all that sad either.

Still-alive · Answer

Well you're on to something if you consider 'happiest' and 'comedians' to be similar. there does seem to be a connection for comedians to be some of the most depressed people out there. consider Robin Williams a very funny comedian and actor who... well we all know what happened to him. there are many other comedians who report feelings of depression too.

Sonorous · Answer

then there's me being the saddest one in the group & the saddest one deep down 💀

CaptBeard · Answer

Because they know what it's like to be the saddest in the group and want to ensure that no one else feels like that. They are not protecting themselves, they are protecting you.

WіllReportu · Answer

Because of their wrong choices. They choose instant gratification and pay the inevitable consequences long term.

The-Stud · Answer

Well to be brutally honest, being sad never helps , Period.. so why not be happy instead haha (*obnoxious laughter*)

WhitneySnow · Answer

I totally get that. I can be the same way sometimes.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

you're the happiest person i know, so i don't know?

TomMarks · Answer

Sometimes the saddest people are working the hardest to put on a strong face to hide how sad they feel from others.

Fireguy17 · Answer

probably not, I am not sad inside, pretty much happy go lucky.

Yannae · Answer

I don't think they are the happiest, period. A mask is a mask.

jahaims · Answer

They are already depressed so they don't want to bring other people down/ burden them. It feels good to make others happy.

Iron_Man · Answer

That’s why they’re in a group they want comfort

Mike87479 · Answer

Because they are trying to hide their depression

Daffotul · Answer

Maybe because they do so much for others that in the end they are drained and overwhelmed.

dolemite58 · Answer

it’s usually a defense mechanism, it’s like when people that are the funniest are usually the most screwed up deep down

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