Everywhere I go I get made fun of and judged....please read....sorry it's long. thoughts?

[Anonymous]

I'm going to post this anon in order to avoid problems lol. well, I lost around 20-24 lbs this year and I'm really happy about it! well last night I went out to a local bar and grill with my boyfriend, my best friend and her boyfriend. we went for karaoke and thought it would be a fun time. we are a mature fun group, and dress nicely. I suggested to my friend that we wear dresses because I was happy I finally hit the 20 pound lost mark and I wanted to dress up, so I wore a cute bebe dress. she wore a cute/sexy outfit also. well, the whole night I got dirty looks...a girl came up to me and said "your ass looks horrible, you need to take off your thong, your ass is too big for your thong" my best friend almost hit the girl and told her to lose a few pounds then talk. then I sat on the hood of my boyfriends car and a few guys said "watch out you'll put a dent in it" and my boyfriend told them they need to leave if they know what's good for them, and of course they ran off like scared little drunk kids. I don't understand...they whole night I got dirty looks... every time I wear a dress I get stared at and pointed at it seems like. I lost weight and I get made fun of even more than I did when I was big. I don't understand. I was so insecure before I was suicidal I hated everything about myself and now I start to like myself a little and get a tiny bit of confidence and everyone feels the need to cut me down and tell me how gross I am. all I want is to like myself again. everyone assumes I'm some conceited bimbo and I don't understand why. whenever I meet people they are really rude to me until they get to know me then they really like me and tell me how they thought I was going to be a stuck up bitch or full of myself and conceited, when in all actuality I hate myself and am really nice and just want to make friends...

i don't get it. why would people do this? just be outright mean and judgmental to someone minding their own business out having fun? I don't understand, it hurts so much, I'm human and have feelings like everyone else. people act like I should just ignore it but its hard to when it constantly happens. why would people judge a total stranger?

[ElementalWolf]

Girls can be bitchy and judgmental towards girls they're jealous of, and hey if they were paying attention to what you look like it's probably because you were better looking than them. Don't let anybody bring you down, there's absolutely no need or reason for anybody you don't know to be coming up to you and being rude like that, none at all. It's just bad manners. You come across people like that in life who spend a tad too much time focusing on other people because looks are the other thing the deem important in life. Be proud of who you are. You have strength of character to lose that weight, don't forget that. Just think to yourself, I had the strength to lose this weight so I have more than enough strength to get over and ignore small minded people like that.

You should feel great about yourself, you did really well losing weight :) If anything feel sorry for people like that, you can lose the weight but they can't lose that God awful personality of theirs.

[torog]

Hi,

People hurt others for different reasons. To help you a little I would have to know more precisely how you are. You said you lost some weight but didn't say what is your current weight. Also, you said that people assume that you are a "conceited bimbo" when they don't know you personally; so does this mean you are rather pretty?

[Asker]

im pretty average sized now...except my hips they are still wide because I had a child. I don't want to tell my weight because weight can look different on everyone. lets just say my measurements are 34-28-40 but I want to get a lot smaller and not stop until the rude comments and stares stop =(, and I don't know if I'm pretty...my boyfriend and friends tell me I am. and I have been told I am by people but I don't think it. I am very modest and don't like how I look.

[torog]

I'll assume that you are pretty or at least average then. And it's OK to not tell your weight.

I think they are rude with you because they think that you try hard to fit in their "world", a world that you are not familiar with. (This isn't my point of view, it's theirs). People tend to hate those who give a wrong image of what they try to reach perfection in; and when they are in groups they get the nerve to say it loudly because they know the people who are with them have the same...

[torog]

opinion and will support them. Doing so even bring them some respect from their friends so they are more than happy to hurt you. This is the way JERKS think. I hope the situation will improve for you. My words may crude because I try to be objective, I’m sorry for that.

[idontgetit123]

It's human nature to be judgmental, but it's the a**holes who feel the need to let the world know.

[Luve19]

I kind of know what you're talking about when I was by myself. I always had the vibe. That'll kick your a**.
But in your case, yours is a little bit more different, but it also could be that they're jealous that you are looking very beautiful

[-Darling]

One word; jealousy!