How can I make myself happy again?

[Anonymous]

Hey everyone, happy Friday :)

I know this is so silly to ask but i truly am in a horrible funk theses past few months and i have no idea how to shake it off. How can i make myself happy again? i truly have no idea. so i quit my anxiety driven job back in November and it’s been hard trying to find another one.

I don’t have any friends, like none at all. im home all the time because i dont have anything to do plus i dont have any motivation to leave my house. i’m tired of living my life this way and i dont know how to change it. i have applied for a lot of jobs and none of them are calling me back. when i try to talk to people, they don’t respond back.

I’m so so so tired of my life and i want to make it better 😢 any advice please

[Static_In_The_Attic]

This is Motivation.

As for your frown you’re going to have to turn it upside down & as for you it’s time for you to face the sunshine & let the shadows cast behind you.

On the road of life it isn’t easy & it isn’t hard either. On the road of life you are going to hit bumps. On the road of life you are going to run into stop signs. On the road of life you are going to run into yellow lights, red lights & green lights as well.

On the road of life when you find your place in the world you will know it & when you find your place in the world that is when you will find happiness.

FUCK ANXIETY! Say that & keep on saying that. As for anxiety you need to control it & don’t let it control you. In life you are the captain, you are in control & just remember you’re sitting in the captain’s chair so put your thrusters on full & go kick ass.

As for employment don’t look for a job, look for a career. As for employment if you are having a hard time finding it go down to your local employment office or agency & talk to them & I guarantee they will help putting you back on the path toward success.

In the meantime get your shit together. Get cleaned up, get a haircut, get your ass off the couch & go do something. Start talking to people, connect with nature, go down to a local animal shelter & take a dog for a walk & if you have a dog already start walk, start talking & do your thing.

[jshm2]

Well, first thing to understand is why you are sad.

Obviously you need to get a mental health assessment to find if it is something medical. After that you need to get applying to clubs and social events to meet new people.

But, you also need to start making savings on spending and time, to ensure you don't get into debt and other problems. But give yourself a bit of time before applying for jobs.

You don't need happy, you need focus, goals, and contentment. Happy got you where you are now, and you are obviously not happy. So move onto bigger and better things, than short term happy.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

First, recognize that your feelings are not only your responsibility, but a choice you make.
Second, find things that make you happy. Express gratitude for those things regularly. If you can’t think of anything, even being happy you live in a house is good enough.
Third, make a point of doing something for you every day. Sometimes it’s buying yourself a treat, sometimes it’s cancelling plans to stay home, sometimes it’s going out by yourself.

[RandomGirl42]

I can get into some bouts of depression, especially in winter and listening to anything "spiritual" can help me but sometimes I get into such a funk that it just makes me more depressed but either way I always remember that somehow, someway, happiness is all my choice and the only one ever keeping me from it is me.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/CMz50F_uMTs

[MrChinaski]

Have you spoken to your GP? It's where most people start in managing depression. A good GP can:

- Talk through medication options to increase or at least flatten your mood and provide prescriptions. Most people need to find a med that works for them. I never could, but the average benefits for someone with depression are positive, albeit moderate.

- Talk about counsellors or psychologists that may be useful, and their different roles, and provide a referral to a psychologist. A bit like meds, psychologists have standard counselling approaches that deliver benefits, albeit moderate, on average, with some finding large improvements and others no improvement.

- Provide information on supports available in your area.

All of this has been useful to me, particularly to understand my options, at different points in my life.

[Persephone02]

I'm sort of in the same boat. Not really happy with my life but I'm about to get into drawing and hope that helps. I can't really stand my current job and currently looking for another job. So I totally empathize with what you're going through right now and would just suggest to you to find something, a hobby or activity that will make you find that spark again. I'm hoping drawing will do that for me.

[Anonymous]

To fix the homebound issue, I suggest going to the library for 30 to 45 minutes minimum on a few pre-set days a week.

Even if it doesn't seem like that will interest you, the main thing is that it is going to get you out of the house, which will have psychological benefits that may not he immediately apparent.

And the reason I say for only 30 or so minute and on pre-set days is because it'll be easier to do when you are NOT motivated. Because 30 minutes is not too much of a commitment. And if you have them planned (certain days), you're not relying on a motivational whim. This is going to take some discipline, it's going to be easy to be like "nah, I don't feel like going today". But it's also easy to tell yourself "it's only 30 minutes 2 or 3 times a week. I'll just go today for a bit and I have the rest of the day to do whatever else I need to".

[DonaldDarko]

You can start a business like for instance cleaning. Its low overhead and easy to start, you'd be employed in a short time. All you have to do is clean, do sales and keep a simple spread sheet. It's not as complicated as people make it out to be. You don't even need chemicals , dish soap does just about everything.

[CuriousMufuxka]

You should use this time as a great kick in the complacency. Clearly you have enough cash or rely upon others to not have the challenge of work or be homeless. Sad sacking around in a fuck it type attitude. No passion. I'm not trying to talk shit, but rather show an outside perspective and tell you.. It's up to you alone to kick your ass back into gear and go from there. Little victories here and there add up and boost morale.

[NessaEssa]

Listen to music not sad music something with a dancing beat like party music. 🎶 And dance around the house. It doesn't matter if you don't know how nobody is watching. It works for me when I'm sad and down.

[Nikki1989]

Mood usually follows action, not the other way around. Choose one hobby or task that you used to enjoy and do it for five minutes. Often, the momentum carries you forward.

[AReyMarz]

Right here

[queenofcardio]

Put on some music very loud and start dancing.. Sometimes exercising can help when we are feeling low..

[Rangers]

Watch Wrestlemania on Netflix from long ago and think back to when you were little and how car the world had already come when you hardly understood things

[CindyRuns]

For me, bringing happiness to someone else makes me even happier !!!

[Twalli]

I do have good family support, but I've applied to well over 100 jobs and have been out of work since August 2024. Get used to them not contacting you. That's commonplace nowadays.

[In_Trance]

get off the internet for a few hours and go do something.

Work out

Go for a walk

Read

Start a new hobby

[Staximus]

Get out of your house and go do something. Go show up to the job you want

[Anonymous]

First step get out of the house go for a walk go to the beach or to a park or look at a pond or lake go fishing shoot billiards play pool take up a hobby put more job applications in

[Anonymous]

Get a Jet Ski. Ya never see an unhappy person on a Jet Ski.😆

[FunkyMonkee]

Tell yourself a bunch of funny jokes.

[LiamJHayden]

Choose happiness.

[beefcakebradybatson]

Get a handsome older black cowboy !!!