How do woman feel in general feel being around or nearby unattractive guys?

[Anonymous]

Do they feel offended? Angry? Furious?

I ask this because anytime I had to be around woman, they literally thought I wanted to flirt with them, or ask them out or anything sexual

They would be cool with every other guy but with me they would be very on guard, or act rude when I'm not doing anything

[saiyanprincess]

I personally dont judge anyone, especially by appearance but I feel like the problem is just this weird stereotype society has put into people's minds especially women where "Oh, an unattractive person is probably a desperate person due to the fact that they're unattractive and probably alone and they desperately crave a women/man or any kind of love and affection". BUT I don't know, it's just what I assume other women think because me personally, I don't feel uncomfortable around anyone unless ofc they cross the line by verbally harassing me or much worse 🤷‍♀️

[Asker]

So if woman feel on guard towards me from the get go then it's safe to assume it's because I'm unattractive?

I've had many female neighbors turn into real bitches once they find out we're neighbors

Scowls, ignoring purposely if we meet eyes,& in general being "afraid" of me when I haven't done anything

[saiyanprincess]

Yeah basically, some women are just bitches in general but if you haven't done anything and yet you still get treated that way, it's probably just because you're unattractive and assume you're a creep for that same reason

[Asker]

I've had almost every gal scowl at me when I moved into a new neighborhood literally on the 1st day when I was roaming around the area

What is it they want from me? Personally?

Why are they cool with every guy regardless of what they look like BESIDES me?

[jennifer_bloom]

I know plenty of religious guys that are ugly and have no difficulty getting girls to date them. One is less than 5"3 and dated a girl that was 5"10.

[Asker]

That his case

Mines is a bit over the top simply because i don't signal any girl or guy that I want to do anything with them & even at that I get treated somewhat unfairly

I was rated a 5/10 from a few family members & from their friends soooo...

It's odd because many of the females who tend to have issues towards me are a mix of much older & around my age & since I'm a 5/10 "apparently" why would I be a target?

[jennifer_bloom]

If you befriend a lot of people, bullies won’t mess with you because you will be seen as a difficult person to overrule. Make small talk as much as possible at work.

[Asker]

I'm curious

If most gals tend to have an issue with me being around them or feel agitated, frustrated from having to interact with me? The signs

[jennifer_bloom]

Girls like happy guys and smart guys cause they want to feel protected so if you give signs that you are reliable such as helping them clean up when their shift is over, defending them when people judge them, giving them rides or buying them medicine, you might get her chasing after you.

[Asker]

Not simping

But I've had several gals get literally scared of me from just seeing me

[jennifer_bloom]

It’s behaviour and not always looks that get girls scared. If you act like your scared of yourself, others will be scared of you too.

[In_Trance]

the same way guys feel being around unattractive girls

[Asker]

So then how would the average or attractive guy view an unattractive guy?

[inhua]

did they gaslight you on your "bad personality"?

[Asker]

No

They would make it a point to scowl, be blunt & direct, avert eye contact on purpose, get somewhat agitated if we came into contact

& I've never done or said anything to them

[inhua]

yeah it sucks but that's just how it sometimes. you won't get a direct answer from them plus their actions can easily result in plausible deniability. best to just move on and never look down.

[Asker]

So I'm just being looked down at because of my appearance?

[inhua]

most definitely. in the same way short men, broke men etc. get looked down upon. not everyone will look down on you but the only way to not get looked down upon is to improve your situation.

[Asker]

But why are these same girls nicer to every other guy? I've seen these same girls behave very toxic towards me but become "nice" once dealing with other guys

[inhua]

the other guys are probably more attractive but that shouldn't be a reason or excuse for them to be toxic towards you. they are toxic towards you because these girls have been brought up that way, never been called out for their bad behavior or double standards, never worked a low-paying job in their lives i. e. at a cafe or mcdonalds, spoiled beyond belief, obsessed with popularity, status etc.
if they feel offended by you just by you existing, then the problem isn't with you no matter how much other people will gaslight you for it. the problem is with them for feeling "offended".

[Asker]

There "nicer" to every type of guy... not necessarily "conventionally attractive"

Obese, handicapped,& "slow" guys

[EndGame55]

I'd like to know too. I'm in the same wagon as u.