Was anyone here sent to a psychiatric hospital by their parents and if so, did it sour your relationship with them?

[Anonymous]

I haven't spoken to my parents for years because of it. When I last spoke to them and told them how the trauma of the experience destroyed my quality of life, they cried crocodile tears and said that they just didn't know what else to do to help. I told them that at that point, I didn't need help. I needed space and I needed time and you took that away from me.

[NotTacocaT6969]

Your parents didn’t understand what was wrong or how to help.


They made a mistake.


A horrible one, but still, a mistake.


They didn’t know what it would be like for you in there. All they knew was what television told them happens in those places…which is a lie.


If they could go back in time and undo having sent you there, I guarantee they would.


But they can’t…the damage is done.


It will be up to you if you can find it in you to forgive them for making that terrible mistake or not.

[Asker]

"Your parents didn’t understand what was wrong or how to help."

Like I said I didn't need help and does it honestly never occur to parents that even when they fear for the safety of their child, their was still a such thing as going to far to help them?

[Asker]

And sorry if I have a hard time buying into all this talk about "hindsight bias" when I told them again and again to back off.

[NotTacocaT6969]

The thing is, at the time they really didn’t understand.

That lack of understanding led to them making a terrible decision, but at the time they fully believed it was a helpful solution.

Now that it’s too late, they know it was the wrong choice.

It’s entirely up to you if you’d rather forgive them for their lapse in judgement or hold a grudge.

Things will never go back to normal between you. But things can always get better than they are now.

[Asker]

"The thing is, at the time they really didn’t understand."

If you don't know what else to do besides taking it too far, then you shouldn't do anything and that's not something you need hindsight to understand.

"It’s entirely up to you if you’d rather forgive them for their lapse in judgement or hold a grudge.""

I told them I'd never forgive them if they did it (again hindsight bias doesn't apply here).

[NotTacocaT6969]

You have your age on here set to 30-35, but the words and mannerisms from you are that of a teenager.

Did you lie about your age on here to avoid being banned or ignored?

[Asker]

Trauma can stunt emotional development.

[Guy13]

That has never happened to me. It is a shame you three could not have gone as group counseling session for a year or two.