Telling a friend you’ve been friends with a long time that you don’t want to be friends with them anymore? Does that make me a bad person?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been friends with her for a long time and the last couple years we’ve started talking a lot more. I did get mad at her for having a big mouth in the past and telling my step mom things we talked about after telling her numerous times that I don’t trust her. She went behind my back

Thats not the ultimate reason why I don’t want to be friends … I’m just starting to find her annoying. The things she’s doing is normal but it’s annoying me I don't know why.

I think I just forgave her easily due to loneliness.. I don't know.

I also feel like she’s slightly attracted to me.. I notice that she says “love you or I love you “ more often, compliments a bit more, texting more often so … I don't know.

[Aaron03]

Honestly sometimes friends, for whatever reason, just drift apart. If you feel like you and her just aren’t compatible anymore then I see no reason why not being friends would make you a bad person. Especially if what you’re saying about her possibly being “in love” with you. It might be better just to break away from it now. It doesn’t mean you have to be rude or mean about it, and it’s easier said then done but just be honest with her.

[Asker]

I reallllly don’t want to assume that but something about the friendship changed… how would I know if she’s thinking of me as more?

I had to confront her about joking saying “you trying to suck my pussy” or other weird jokes… she apologized and said she didn’t mean it. She said she jokes like that with her other friends

We joke etc and talk shit to eachother but I hated when she joked that way bc I don’t see her that way

I just hope I’m not overreacting

[Aaron03]

So the jokes and such, those are what they are you know? They’re probably just jokes but what do you think really changed in the friendship outside of that?

[Asker]

It’s just so much lesbianism in friendships now. It’s hard to know true female motives nowadays. But no it wasn’t the jokes itself I just said that it made me uncomfortable a bit… sometimes I felt like it was a way to test the waters

But I really don’t know why I don’t want to be friends anymore… maybe I’m just not a good friend or I don’t like having a “best friend”… I don’t want to talk everyday

[Aaron03]

Oh ok I get what you’re saying now. I mean if you don’t want to be friends anymore nothing should force you to be. Like I said sometimes we just fall out of friendship with people. What would you miss if you two stopped being friends?

[Asker]

I would miss the friendship but I don't know having someone always there for you and to laugh

[Aaron03]

I’m so do a simple pros and cons list

[Asker]

The more I fry and distance myself the more she text.
She text yesterday “wyd gorgeous “ we chatted a few mins nothing deep. Today she text “wyd” I then told her..”hey luv, I need some space and I don’t want to be rude and not text you back. All is well. I hope all is well with you”

She said “okay love you”

[Anonymous]

Just say you dont think it's working out or silently ghost

[Asker]

I just feel like such a bad person.

[Opinion Owner]

You both will get over it. Its life