My boyfriend cried, does he love me?

[Anonymous]

he told me I'm not attractive enough so that's why he doesn't introduce me to his friends, but he really loves me. I didn't believe him so I said I'm gonna leave him, then he cried! he's not the crying type and he hasn't cried in YEARS, he said he has no right to keep me anymore and he was really hurting. does he love me if he cried for me?

[devotedlyopinionated]

He loves you but seriously? What kind of a**hole are you dating that would say he won't introduce you to his friends because you're not attractive enough? Or worse, what kind of friends does he have? You need to talk to him, and be ASSERTIVE, don't just tell him you forgive him or all that crap. You need to lay down the law that if his friends don't like a girl because she's not attractive, he needs some different friends. And that he needs to shape up because he should love every part of you, even your flaws, and by calling you not attractive enough, he called you ugly. You deserve a heck of a lot better. If he doesn't shape up, DUMP HIM.

[Asker]

its funny because its not only me, he's hid his exes around like this too, and he says only the girls out of his league will he find attractive...its not a problem with his friends, its his problem, without breaking up, how do I get him to shape up?

[devotedlyopinionated]

Threaten to break up. He's an ass who obviously can't get out of his league because he's dating girls he doesn't find attractive. Tell him you are perfectly attractive and if he doesn't think so you'll go find someone who does.

[MzNatalie]

Excuse me? Are you for real? MF, leave his punk bitch ass. Why the f-u-c-k are you with some a**hole mother f-u-c-k-e-r like that? YOu are not pretty enough to introduce you to his friends...so I guess his friends are the most important thing in his life and you are just some piece of ass he hides away. Are you really going to put up with that?

[lostinlove21111]

thats a confusing thing. I believe he really does love you because recently my boyfriend cried when we were on the phone and he isn't the crying type at all! I think he's just confused ask him to tell you how he really feels about you and then tell him if that's true then he has to prove it. and if he can't prove it id try and let go.

[Asker]

yup I asked him and he said I'm the first person he's ever loved, if this isn't love then he doesn't know what love is...and ask him to prove it? what ways can he prove? I've asked him many times if he loves me and every time he tells me he loves me

[lostinlove21111]

tell him if he really does love you to introduce you to one of his friends to prove it.

[AltTech]

Even if he did claim to love you, what's the point in staying with someone that disrespectful?

He basically told you that you aren't good enough to meet his friends and that he's ashamed of your appearance. And then cries to manipulate you into staying with him in spite of him being a tool.

Believe me, you can find someone 10x better than him who will show you real respect and be proud to be with you.

[Asker]

yeah I'm leaving him, I just want to know if he really loves me, what do you think?

[Habakkuk]

if you love someone, you'll think they're beautiful

[AltTech]

No, I don't believe he really loves you. He probably loves your company and lusts after you. And the thought of losing that turns him into a total p****. A guy who really loves you will be proud of you and want to share his life with you.

[TigerRoseBear]

Sounds like he's really confused in life. In any case, he's a total d*** for not introducing you to his friends. Dump his ass if he doesn't change his mind. I can't believe he'd do that. What an a**hole.

[Luv2Rock89]

no, he probably just realized how much of an A-hole he is. I will never understand why women let boyfriends talk to them this way, and STAY with them. he should be making you feel beautiful, like you're the only girl in the world for him. he does not love you or else he would never even THINK to say something so hurtful and disrespectful to you. he's not worth it.

[Luv2Rock89]

p.s. - he sounds like a coward anyways for only going for girls that he's not even attracted to. buddy needs to grow a pair, and gain some respect for woman. we're not just something to look at.

[bel42]

Lol, crying isn't a sign that he loves you. He's not attracted to you so there is no way he could love you.