How do I overcome my fear of having a child with down syndrome?

[Anonymous]

I know it's not a nice thing to ask (that's why I'm posting anon), but time is coming for me and my wife to have a baby and I cannot be excited about it because I'm too scared of having a child with down syndrome.

It's nothing but a selfish feeling, I know a few people (some are family) that have a down syndrome son/daughter, and their lives revolve around them. They cannot go to social events, they cannot enjoy holidays, they can barely save any money... Is like their life is over.
And they live in constant fear that the child is going to escape, or hurt himself, or hurt others, or break something. Last month a down syndrome teenager visiting a relative in my wife's hospital threw her dog against the wall and killed it, you have to have a thousand eyes on them.

I don't want to live like that, I have no reason to believe I will, but just the fear that it could happen terrifies me. How can I overcome this fear? I tried talking with my cousin who has a child with this condition and I only felt worse afterwards.

I'm sorry if this question offends anyone.

[Sour-rose]

Very simple: Have the kid. :D Roll the dice, see what happens. Your fear is only something you fear, it could happen or not. :D

[Monalisa77]

I think they can do tests now before their born but ds isn't the only thing a person can have that will restrict you.

[Anonymous]

Then ADOPT

The odds of your fear is low. However I'd stop internalizing those fears if I were you.

[Asker]

That was an option that crossed my mind, but my wife wants to give birth. Plus as you said, I need to learn to overcome the fear rather than avoiding it

[Anonymous]

Your fears are understandable, perhaps discussing this with a doctor would help you?

[Asker]

Nice to hear I'm not a monster for being afraid of this. Thanks!

[Anonymous]

i get that, but we're in 2023, they have tests to see if the fetus will have any diseases while in the womb.

[Asker]

Yeah but even if it comes positive, there's no much to do. I don't think my wife would like to abort even if it's on the first month

[Opinion Owner]

well that is HER decision

[Asker]

I don't know why you have to emphasize that when I clearly said I cannot do anything cause I can do cause she wouldn't like to abort.

I find it pathetic how you stupid keyboard warriors have to fight even when there's nothing to fight about... Get lost

[Opinion Owner]

how the fuck am i fighting lol get blocked fuck.

[In_Trance]

Is the fear rational? based on what?

[Asker]

I don't think is rational, no. Cause I don't have a reason why would I have a child with that condition.

Is just the odd chance that I have it that gives me the fear