Why does my friend always go to her mom first anytime we have a fight?

[Flavava21]

Everytime me and my friend have fights she always goes to her mom Instead of trying to work it out with me first. Honestly it’s really hurtful! Especially since it always ends with her mom handling her issue with me. Me and my friend have these fights and I’m very open and I’m always down to talk about it. But instead she always tells her Mom. And it makes me feel childish. My friend always makes me feel almost like inferior. Because I always admit when I am wrong and I apologize but she always has to justify when she hurts me. Also we are 23 and 24 so I don’t get why our issues can’t just be between us.

[Anonymous]

It's possible that your friend feels more comfortable talking to her mom about conflicts because she trusts her mom's judgment and advice. It's also possible that she may not know how to handle conflicts or may feel overwhelmed by them, so turning to her mom for guidance is her default response.

However, it's understandable that this behavior is hurtful to you and makes you feel like your friendship is not being given a fair chance to work through issues. It may be helpful to have a conversation with your friend about how her actions make you feel and how you would like to handle conflicts in the future. You can express that you value your friendship and would prefer to work out any issues directly between the two of you.

It's important to approach the conversation in a non-confrontational manner and to focus on finding a solution that works for both of you. You can also suggest that you both work on improving your communication skills so that you can better understand each other's perspectives and avoid conflicts in the future.

Remember that conflict is a natural part of any relationship, but it's how we handle it that determines the outcome. By working together and being open and honest with each other, you can strengthen your friendship and build a deeper level of trust and understanding.

[Anonymous]

She must trust her mothers opinion.